Quick backstory: I’m in what many call a golden relationship. For 8 years, its always been close to perfect minus the petty squabbles here and there. Politics had never been spoken of in depth previous to 2016 because neither of us were very political people. We only ever lightly talked political subjects and I was always leaning towards the right and her, left, and it was never an issue, but when she learned I was voting for Trump in 2016(I didn’t see the shitstorm coming my way when she asked if I was going to vote), she freaked out, to say the least. It got ugly, it got nasty. There were some hurtful things said. It was the worst fight we had ever had, so bad that our entire relationship was put into question and after it was over and the dust settled, I told her that because of the way she had acted and what was said, we would never again be able to talk about politics if we wanted to continue our relationship because if it were ever repeated, I wouldn’t deal with something like that again, I would walk away. In reflection, she must have believed the media fear-mongering(TDS)and her liberal work environments influence about Trump ending everyones rights and destroying the world because our values and views are not wildly opposite. But we stuck to it and did not talk about politics for the last four years.
And now we come to today, out of the complete blue, in an unrelated conversation, she blindsides me with: “I’m voting for Trump, by the way.”
Seriously thought my brain glitched. The man she equated with the devil and put our relationship on the edge of ruin over, is now getting her vote.
She still says she doesn’t like Trump, but that Biden is a threat to children. Go figure. It’s a start.
If Trump doesn’t win, the only way it’s possible is voter fraud. Even people who viewed Trump as a country destroyer in 2016 are voting for him now.
Not telling you how to live your life or saying "OMG you should've broke up with her", but how do you have a relaitonship without talking politics? Sincerely curious.
I have friends whom I can just agree not to discuss politics with, but many friendships are more convenience than intimate ("I play poker with him"/"we work together" vs. "If I hear there's a death in your family I will be at the funeral instead of signing an office card.").
It would seem hard to be with someone long term who had such a drastically different world view that you couldn't peacefully agree to disagree (which is a reasonable stance to have on something you feel passionately about, with someone whose opinion you care about and share a life with).
He says in the OP that their views aren't markedly different, though.
She is probably a victim of media brainwashing. I think women in particular are very susceptible to believing the defamatory caricature they have constructed of Trump.
For the first half of our relationship, I think it was our ages. We’re both only in our late twenties, been together since 19/21 and neither of us had much interest in politics. Trump was my first vote. And as the person said below this, our views aren’t that far apart. She definitely had TDS in 2016, though and just hadn’t made it apparent to me.
I did it for decades. Kept it to myself and my dad. These past three years though? she self-redpilled! Worth the wait.
Me and my gf have the same worldview but dont talk politics either