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ItsBigLeagueNotBigly 5 points ago +5 / -0

I would definitely report him for animal cruelty. There is no excuse for abusing innocent animals. Anyone who does that is a real piece of shit.

As far as kicking your grandpa out of the house, there are eviction laws for that. You can't just kick someone out of their place of residence, no matter who owns the house. It could take many months or longer if it goes to court. Make sure your grandpa knows his legal rights.

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ItsBigLeagueNotBigly 1 point ago +1 / -0

It's a bad situation, and it's not easy, but make sure you at least try to figure out a way to help that dog. You have many different options available, and I'm sure you'll do what's best. Good luck!

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magatron2000 4 points ago +4 / -0

Lay some money on the table and offer to buy the dog from him.

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brassmule 3 points ago +3 / -0

Document it with video. Thanks to POTUS, animal cruelty is a FELONY.

Now, whether that will leave your family in a more precarious position or not if he is arrested and charged is another matter.

Tough situation. You're a family and your uncle is not behaving like part of it.

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brassmule 1 point ago +1 / -0

Indeed. I'm not sure if I have any better advice to give you. Family troubles are difficult, and compound that with alcohol and financial entanglements, and you've got a very tough situation.

I can say that trying to do something drastic like removing the dog without permission can really come back to bite you later. Unfortunately you are left with playing by the rules when dealing with someone like this.

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Harambe 3 points ago +3 / -0

abusing animals is against the law. If you wont confront your uncle, cops will. They can say "a neighbor heard something" if you want to stay out of it.

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Those_Who_Wander 3 points ago +3 / -0

Are there any mine shafts in the region? Not super constructive, I know. I'll try again. Have you taken video of your uncle abusing the dog? Have you checked the animal abuse laws in your area? If you have proof, you may be able to work something. Is the dog prone to run away? If so, drive her five hours away to a shelter, tell them you found her on the road and tell your family she slipped out. You probably wouldn't see her again but she's be better off it sounds like.

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Those_Who_Wander 1 point ago +1 / -0

That's rough. I'm sorry. Keep us updated.

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Those_Who_Wander 1 point ago +1 / -0

You did what you could in a bad situation. That's all you can do sometimes.

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RatioInvictus 2 points ago +2 / -0

Let me help:

  1. The guy who said take video is right. New Mexico is a one party consent state, so you have to be present or get your grandpa to consent. Best to leave him out of it.
  2. Report the uncle to the police for animal cruelty, with video evidence.

Here's the hard part: people who are cruel to animals aren't just cruel to animals. That motherfucker will abuse people, and probably already has. You need to protect your grandpa. Talk to your sheriff about it; might be able to file a restraining order against the uncle (if he's not hauled off for animal cruelty). It sounds like they put the house in the son's (your uncle's) name prior to your grandma's death, and that allowing the grandpa to live out the rest of his life there was a condition of that transfer. Get it documented and stipulated in a legal document, or you're at the whim of someone cruel. Everyone at the whim of someone cruel gets hurt. Everyone.

Hard road. Be strong. We never get to choose the moments when we're needed, only how we'll respond when the time comes.

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RatioInvictus 1 point ago +1 / -0

Don't give up. Get video. Call 1-866-654-3219, Adult Protective Services Statewide Intake and explain that you're worried he has or will abuse your grandpa. Call Animal Protection of New Mexico at (505) 265-2322 and explain that you're worried about the dog, and what you've witnessed. If you trust the sheriff, talk to the sheriff.

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RatioInvictus 1 point ago +1 / -0

Protect the innocent. Punish the guilty. You'll never regret either.

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bellcurvestrikesback 1 point ago +1 / -0

Have you told your uncle his treatment of his dog makes you uncomfortable?

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Kokothegorilla 1 point ago +1 / -0

Is there anyone who can challenge him? Perhaps get him into aa? That is not a good situation.

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Old_ex_Commie 1 point ago +1 / -0

Film as much as you can while remaining discreet.

Someone, somewhere, at some time is going to need it for evidence.

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PezzShivers 1 point ago +1 / -0

I think reporting him for animal cruelty might just make things worse. It's not going to take his name off the house. He might get locked up for a night or two but as soon as he returns people will have hell to pay for reporting him. I'm not sure what you could do. If he did drugs you could get him arrested for that. If you could somehow get him in trouble for somthing and have him get put on probation that way you can call his probation officer everytime he does something to the dog. They will arrest him for a probation violation and make him spend a few nights in jail. Eventually he will quit fucking with the dog.

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nufosmatic 1 point ago +1 / -0

Your uncle needs help and that starts by helping the dog.

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nufosmatic 1 point ago +1 / -0

Then you know what you have to do.

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clbrto 1 point ago +1 / -0

find the dog a new home

on the down low

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1standboobs 1 point ago +1 / -0

Got a backhoe? Just curious.

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MsAnthropic 0 points ago +1 / -1

Re the dog, you can’t let that continue. This might help: https://apnm.org/what-we-do/challenging-animal-cruelty/recognizing-reporting-animal-cruelty/

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