Believe me when I say it's been a rollercoaster. We started dating back when I was in college and probably weeks before I got on the Trump train (Fall 2015). She'd come visit me every weekend and one time, I got into a conversation with my roommate and we both started to agree that Trump was a leader, loved his "alpha personality", and that we were excited to vote for him. This was probably around the time when they started attacking him for being racist and what not. My girlfriend cried and wasn't sure about the future of our relationship at this point.
After lots of discussions and sharing articles and trying to get through to her, she ended up not sending in her ballot in 2016, which she had filled out for Hillary.
Fast forward to 2020, we're still happily together and she always told me she'd never tell me who she votes for this election. A few of her friends know I'm a Trump supporter and it baffles them -- one went even as far as basically cutting my girlfriend out of her social circle (my girlfriend still blames me for this but whatever, overall not too bad).
This morning she decided to tell me she voted for DJT. I come here to tell the story because I promised her I wouldn't tell anyone... but I trust you pedes to not spread the word and I had to tell someone!
Disagree with this. We also have a 50% divorce rate in this country that completely fucks over the men in the relationship, just because people get married due to social pressure despite not without knowing what the fuck they're doing and who they're marrying. Sure it can be wonderful, but it can also lead to broken homes and losing all your money.
Do not marry unless you are certain that she's the one!
I dated my wife for 6 years until we got married but during that time we did a lot together and went to marriage counseling and other relationship building material.
That said, if you think she's the one, then marry her. Since our marriage, our relationship has improved exponentially. But if you have any hesitations, then address them now - is it in your head? Is it something that you can actually resolve? Is it a deeper issue? Are others voicing concerns?
The Donald is great for political discussion, but not for dating advice. We have a lot of Coomers and simps on here who think AOC and Tulsi Gabbard are hot.
At the end of the day, you listen to your instincts. I will agree though that at a certain point you need to commit once there's no remaining obstacles, otherwise you're just avoiding making a decision.