Yeah, and you have to be able to separate the overall picture from your personal experience. My father was a sociopath/psychopath (I still can't figure out which one but I think it's the former since he was brutally abused as a kid) and he was physically and psychologically abusive to my mom and me before he abandoned ship. I've never had a close, loving relationship with a man growing up and I'm very prickly in my attitude as a result of that (natural defense mechanism that replaced a protective father), so I've just kind of resigned myself to the fact that I'll probably never be able to have a normal relationship with a man. That said, I've seen other people make it work and most men I know are good people despite their (oftentimes numerous) vices. I just get along better with them as a friend, unfortunately. The way your upbringing gets beaten into your brain is hard if not impossible to undo but I was still able to come to realize that not all (not even most) men are like my father. Crazy feminists with daddy issues should try reflecting on that.
Exactly, my father is an alcoholic. Not all men are wonderful. Some are terrible. But I know not all men are bad. We make fun of feminists for having daddy issues, but like you and me they were most likely abused by their father, or they didn't even have one. They don't know what a good man is supposed to be like. They've never had a good male role model to look up to.
So you obviously don’t want anything resembling the abuse you knew, but paradoxically you probably can’t stand a completely “harmless” man. Well people have met in crazier places than this bastion of patriotism. After the victory has been secured you will have no trouble meeting a suitable man here!
Yeah, and you have to be able to separate the overall picture from your personal experience. My father was a sociopath/psychopath (I still can't figure out which one but I think it's the former since he was brutally abused as a kid) and he was physically and psychologically abusive to my mom and me before he abandoned ship. I've never had a close, loving relationship with a man growing up and I'm very prickly in my attitude as a result of that (natural defense mechanism that replaced a protective father), so I've just kind of resigned myself to the fact that I'll probably never be able to have a normal relationship with a man. That said, I've seen other people make it work and most men I know are good people despite their (oftentimes numerous) vices. I just get along better with them as a friend, unfortunately. The way your upbringing gets beaten into your brain is hard if not impossible to undo but I was still able to come to realize that not all (not even most) men are like my father. Crazy feminists with daddy issues should try reflecting on that.
Exactly, my father is an alcoholic. Not all men are wonderful. Some are terrible. But I know not all men are bad. We make fun of feminists for having daddy issues, but like you and me they were most likely abused by their father, or they didn't even have one. They don't know what a good man is supposed to be like. They've never had a good male role model to look up to.
So you obviously don’t want anything resembling the abuse you knew, but paradoxically you probably can’t stand a completely “harmless” man. Well people have met in crazier places than this bastion of patriotism. After the victory has been secured you will have no trouble meeting a suitable man here!