I live in a very liberal state and city. I want to move to Texas or Arizona. I don’t have immediate employment anywhere but because of Covid I was able to pull my entire retirement out penalty free. I have the funds to move but the problem is my wife really doesn’t want to move. I know I won’t have any trouble finding work, however she is worried she won’t find any. What can I do to convince her? We’re both very conservative but she isn’t one to make rash decisions like myself. I don’t want to stay in this hell hole any longer. Advice?
Update: the wife holds licenses to practice in the state we live in only and if we move she would lose those licenses and have to either change careers or go back to college and receive a new education.
I live in a very liberal state and city. I want to move to Texas or Arizona. I don’t have immediate employment anywhere but because of Covid I was able to pull my entire retirement out penalty free. I have the funds to move but the problem is my wife really doesn’t want to move. I know I won’t have any trouble finding work, however she is worried she won’t find any. What can I do to convince her? We’re both very conservative but she isn’t one to make rash decisions like myself. I don’t want to stay in this hell hole any longer. Advice?
Update: the wife holds licenses to practice in the state we live in only and if we move she would lose those licenses and have to either change careers or go back to college and receive a new education.
There are lots of pros and cons but only one wife. I would not try to force or reason my spouse into agreement. Asking her to give up her career is a huge ask. Maybe the time just isn’t right. Try praying about it.
Yeah, hopefully when her parents move we can go with them. I just dread the thought of raising children here.
Maybe there is a creative endeavor or job she always wanted to try, but felt it would be irresponsible to try that after paying for the education. Maybe she should make sure she lives a little before she’s too old to try.
I don’t know, worked on mine.
Do you have want children/have children? That definitely has an impact if yes to either. Unless you homeschool, kids will be brainwashed in schools in a blue city/state. We moved from CA to OH (for a job) and raised our kids there, then recently moved to KY. Beautiful states, both of them. Housing is practically free compared to CA. I'm still in touch with family in CA and it is a hell hole - the whole sanctuary city bullshit, drugs, and all around tension of having to live somewhere you don't feel like you fit in. Make a list - pros and cons - and have a rational discussion with her. Try to win her over vs forcing a move. And network here on the Win - via PMs when you get to know someone a bit via their posts - I'll bet someone here can connect your wife with a good job. 'Pedes are good to each other!
Thanks. I’m a metal fabricator I can literally go anywhere and lay a bead and get a job. She holds licenses to practice in this state only which don’t transfer to other states so she would pretty much be forfeiting her entire college education which we still pay for. We want kids and I do not want to raise them here.
Maybe a tax rate comparison? Do some job searches for her line of work in some prospective red states, compare wages etc. Are there family ties where you are (could be a tough sell). Put your foot down as the MAN of the house and tell her she’s MOVING! JK...lol, that might backfire on ya...
Seriously though, a good wife is a good balance for us fellas. If she’s a good one, her input is worth having. With the right approach you two can surely figure something out. If she’s more cautious than you, that’s ok. May not happen as fast as you’d like, but you don’t want her to resent you for the move.
I don’t have advice but offer encouragement. Pedes will support you wherever you move to. Once you move, get plugged into a community (church is a great place believe it or not) where you can build friendships.
I moved to Florida for the same reason. Maybe you check the job listing on Indeed or something in your new target city to show her if there are jobs there. (Maybe she doesn't want to leave her family.)
Family is a factor but they have stated after grandma dies they’re also leaving. Updated the post about her employment situation.
Check out the job market for her in the areas you are looking at? Arizona’s housing market is on the rise right now, but probably still cheap as all shit compared to where you’re coming from. If you’re in Arizona if you get a more central housing location you can literally drive anywhere in ‘the valley’ in about a half hour or less which is Phoenix, Scottsdale, Tempe, Mesa, Chandler/Gilbert, Glendale/Peoria, etc..should be plenty of job opps!