Your questions, reasoning, reconsiderations, and human understanding are very similar to Job's. God is omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent and loving beyond comprehension. The Father is also a just, spiritual being whose holiness alone will destroy man in His presence stained by any sin. That's His nature (curiously sinful angels and unclean spirits can be in his presence if He allows it). He decided to create beings and gift them with free will - spiritual beings with spiritual bodies (angels) and flesh bodies (man). God is sovereign. He decided free will would be the path to take with man and angels. He also knew many would not choose Him. Those who would not do so would corrupt others due to making the free choice to be spectacularly evil. I see where you're coming from - we both value life and can't imagine a loving God letting us choose the path to destruction, but it is ours to choose.. and when we choose a path of sin, we can not be in his presence. Despite being prideful sinful wicked hearted beings who scoff at our creator, he still provides us a way back to Him. The Way (as it's called in the bible - most call it Christianity) transforms us who make the choice to love and draw near the Father through belief, obedience, and love of Jesus Christ his son.

Did I address everything? No. However I wanted to plant the seed that in the end the reasoning in the post I'm responding to seems to assume the Lord may gift true free will or be infinitely loving, but not both. Let's start with this - even if the next post goes in a completely different direction. : >

I should cite the scriptures but I wanted to respond before crashing. It was important to talk and not leave these questions undiscussed.