So much of our modern problems come from previous generations taking the easy way out.
Truth is sending your kid to school all day is the easy way out of parenting. It's obvious that schools are used as daycare now, but like all problems, it started smaller than that. Long ago it started with fathers who were feeling lazy, who decided to hand over the raising of their children to strangers - schoolteachers who (even if they had good intentions) could never hope to replace proper parenting. Now look where we are. You're sending your children off to be raised by people who have to learn the names of 100 kids and have 45 minutes a day with them.
But 150 years ago it wasn't so bad because the kid would come home and (most) of the weird ideas they got could be straightened out at dinner.
Then fathers started watching TV instead of eating with their family.
Then parents decided it was too tough to stick together for their kids, and now no one's getting married and divorce is the norm.
Go back 150 years and schools were local one-room schoolhouses where everyone knew the teacher, the kids were there a few hours a day, it only ran half the year, and the kids were in at age 7 and out by 15.
Now "school" starts at age 3, and the kid is required to be there 10 hours a day 10 months a year until they're 18. That didn't happen overnight...slippery slope.
The only solution is to choose to stop taking the easy way out. Parents need to be parents, and that includes being there with them teaching them skills and values. If you love your child and care about their future, then your child will be your #1 priority. Fathers who put their children first don't start working 70 hours a week to get a bigger house and vacations, they keep it at 40 hours so they have time to be with their kids every single day. And mothers who love their children don't get a second job just to earn enough money to afford daycare. Mothers who love their children stay with their children 24/7, especially for the first 5 years of their life.
School will never be the solution.
You can't expect some random stranger to raise your kid for you. That's the easy way out, and it will never work. Truth is - at best - a teacher can supplement and reinforce the things you are teaching your child. It's much more likely they will confuse your kid, or (these days) lead them astray.
So if you're looking at school as a solution, things are just going to keep getting worse and worse.
This "pandemic" has backfired in one way. Homeschooling rates have increased dramatically because a lot of parents were finally clued in to what the schools were teaching. My best friend just took her kindergartener out of school because they started teaching him that the school is his family. No joke. It's a book that she told me about and there is a video on youtube of someone reading it to you.
Then, she started looking into it and found out that the counselor comes in and teaches "social issues" every week.... including sex education. This is in Wisconsin btw. So she pulled him and his brother who was in preschool out and has been homeschooling them. She said it's been great. They work on school a couple of hours in the afternoon and the kids get to play and be kids the rest of the day.
That's the other thing. My husband was homeschooled and now has an MBA. He only did school 3-4 hours per day growing up. He had way longer Christmas breaks/summer vacations. School wastes SO MUCH TIME! It's crazy. If my husband and I are ever blessed with children, we will 100% homeschool.
There is so much redundancy in education, it’s horrible. 7 hours a day and probably 3 of them are actually spent learning, and that is at the high school level. In elementary school it is roughly half of that. Schools have become indoctrination day cares.
Not to mention the mountains of homework! The amount of time my sister spends helping her kids with their homework is roughly equivalent to the amount of time she could be spending completely homeschooling them.
I took all AP classes in high school, so I was always swamped with tons of homework. I remember going to college and being amazed by how EASY it was. I went from spending 35 hours a week in school plus 10 hours a week in homework to only spending 15 hours a week in class and maybe 15 hours at the most per week of homework/studying. That's 45 hours compared to at most 30. I graduated college in 3 years.
And notice how classes in college are only half of a typical school year but teach your just as much, if not more. Our public education system really needs a complete overhaul.
This has been my revelation since I began homeschooling as well - everything can be completed pretty quickly and then the kids get to be children. Why are we locking our kids up for most of their formative years? It's wild what we've come to accept as normal.
Can confirm, I homeschooled my kids and they spent very little time on academics and still were way ahead of the classroom school kids. Takes very little time
So much of our modern problems come from previous generations taking the easy way out.
Truth is sending your kid to school all day is the easy way out of parenting. It's obvious that schools are used as daycare now, but like all problems, it started smaller than that. Long ago it started with fathers who were feeling lazy, who decided to hand over the raising of their children to strangers - schoolteachers who (even if they had good intentions) could never hope to replace proper parenting. Now look where we are. You're sending your children off to be raised by people who have to learn the names of 100 kids and have 45 minutes a day with them.
But 150 years ago it wasn't so bad because the kid would come home and (most) of the weird ideas they got could be straightened out at dinner.
Then fathers started watching TV instead of eating with their family.
Then parents decided it was too tough to stick together for their kids, and now no one's getting married and divorce is the norm.
Go back 150 years and schools were local one-room schoolhouses where everyone knew the teacher, the kids were there a few hours a day, it only ran half the year, and the kids were in at age 7 and out by 15.
Now "school" starts at age 3, and the kid is required to be there 10 hours a day 10 months a year until they're 18. That didn't happen overnight...slippery slope.
The only solution is to choose to stop taking the easy way out. Parents need to be parents, and that includes being there with them teaching them skills and values. If you love your child and care about their future, then your child will be your #1 priority. Fathers who put their children first don't start working 70 hours a week to get a bigger house and vacations, they keep it at 40 hours so they have time to be with their kids every single day. And mothers who love their children don't get a second job just to earn enough money to afford daycare. Mothers who love their children stay with their children 24/7, especially for the first 5 years of their life.
School will never be the solution.
You can't expect some random stranger to raise your kid for you. That's the easy way out, and it will never work. Truth is - at best - a teacher can supplement and reinforce the things you are teaching your child. It's much more likely they will confuse your kid, or (these days) lead them astray.
So if you're looking at school as a solution, things are just going to keep getting worse and worse.
This "pandemic" has backfired in one way. Homeschooling rates have increased dramatically because a lot of parents were finally clued in to what the schools were teaching. My best friend just took her kindergartener out of school because they started teaching him that the school is his family. No joke. It's a book that she told me about and there is a video on youtube of someone reading it to you.
Then, she started looking into it and found out that the counselor comes in and teaches "social issues" every week.... including sex education. This is in Wisconsin btw. So she pulled him and his brother who was in preschool out and has been homeschooling them. She said it's been great. They work on school a couple of hours in the afternoon and the kids get to play and be kids the rest of the day.
That's the other thing. My husband was homeschooled and now has an MBA. He only did school 3-4 hours per day growing up. He had way longer Christmas breaks/summer vacations. School wastes SO MUCH TIME! It's crazy. If my husband and I are ever blessed with children, we will 100% homeschool.
There is so much redundancy in education, it’s horrible. 7 hours a day and probably 3 of them are actually spent learning, and that is at the high school level. In elementary school it is roughly half of that. Schools have become indoctrination day cares.
Not to mention the mountains of homework! The amount of time my sister spends helping her kids with their homework is roughly equivalent to the amount of time she could be spending completely homeschooling them.
I took all AP classes in high school, so I was always swamped with tons of homework. I remember going to college and being amazed by how EASY it was. I went from spending 35 hours a week in school plus 10 hours a week in homework to only spending 15 hours a week in class and maybe 15 hours at the most per week of homework/studying. That's 45 hours compared to at most 30. I graduated college in 3 years.
And notice how classes in college are only half of a typical school year but teach your just as much, if not more. Our public education system really needs a complete overhaul.
Please encourage her to get her story out there.
This has been my revelation since I began homeschooling as well - everything can be completed pretty quickly and then the kids get to be children. Why are we locking our kids up for most of their formative years? It's wild what we've come to accept as normal.
It takes less time to homeshcool than help kids with homework, but people with kids in school never believe me. Been there, done that
Can confirm, I homeschooled my kids and they spent very little time on academics and still were way ahead of the classroom school kids. Takes very little time