I actually understand addiction very well. Dad was a detrimental partier, mom got clean when I was 2, and of course the experience of my own battles and demons.
In all things there is accountability. If you choose not to acknowledge what a few, or even many, are saying is there. Well... if it quacks and walks like a duck, chances are its a duck. Denial is a big part of it too, and overcoming that is an ego issue.
In fact it's quite linear. This caused that. Cause and effect. This happened because I chose to do that. Why did I choose that? Well I felt like this. What made me feel like that? Well this happened. The event location doesnt matter, so much as the line of realization in the events leading up to said climax, is what helps in understanding the most upon reflection. Self-reflection is necessary, if not crucially the key to it all, to be able to see this. Yes there are forces going in those situations that are uncontrollable, and as such are beyond the purpose of reflecting in the first place. What matters are the decisions/choices/actions that were personally made, during said events, that make apparent the inner truths of the individual. After that comes learning how to actually interpret the information and adapt it to begin to future proof yourself more and more. There are many smaller processes going on at once usually. Support is also extremely important if the afflicted/addicted begins to falter, as the first few times are ROUGH*. *Severity is probably more based on the individual of course. We are our own worst enemy.
We all get weak at times, I get that. Getting lost is part of the journey too. But choosing to give up rather than fight it on different fronts is often, where people fail to move beyond. That usually doesnt do it for me. So I share my knowledge and experiences freely when so prompted most times. If it helps someone, Im glad. I also know better than to waste good air/time on those who are just attention seeking. So while one comment on the internet may seem like I'm narrow of scope or mentally closed off, I'm far from it. Not offended either, as I can see your point, and it is quite valid.
The sad truth in the end, is that simply put, you cannot make a person get help they dont think/feel/view that they need. It has to be a(n) individual/personal choice to take those steps. Sometimes the consequences and results necessary to awaken to it are steep. I personally was hard headed and prideful. So it hurt hitting that wall full force, oblivious to the reality I had created around myself for such lengths of time. But so long as you dont lose anything, mind/limbs/etc, youll heal.
(Personal) Accountability and Responsibility become vital in the healing process once that realization is made, and more importantly accepted. After that it's just a matter of time and personal pacing. Learning to alter the perspective on situations during reflective moments leads to even deeper understandings often, and teaches open mindedness in the process. Whether it takes or not is again based upon the individual's acceptance of said ability or not.
There has to be a fire ignited inside that says enough... otherwise each attempt will be met with relapse.
I personally just dont like weakness. Including my own, which is what drove me to find a way to get better. Doesn't mean I belittle those who fail more than they succeed, or those who think that quitting at the start is valid. Honestly I'm there cheering them on, telling them not to fear it, cause its just part of themselves. I just dont mince words. Hesistation/doubt is death to the process of healing/recovery. Being brutally honest is usually one of the few things that can break it and stop regression. So why start out coddled? This isnt for me, it's for you sort of awakening hopefully occurs, and soon leads to baby steps forward again. Which builds confidence over time, as well as defenses that help cope with tumbles/stumbles.
There is no middle ground, when it comes to addiction.
Addendum: Have an UpTrump. Good civil discussion on a rather sensitive topic. Kudos
I actually understand addiction very well. Dad was a detrimental partier, mom got clean when I was 2, and of course the experience of my own battles and demons. In all things there is accountability. If you choose not to acknowledge what a few, or even many, are saying is there. Well... if it quacks and walks like a duck, chances are its a duck. Denial is a big part of it too, and overcoming that is an ego issue.
In fact it's quite linear. This caused that. Cause and effect. This happened because I chose to do that. Why did I choose that? Well I felt like this. What made me feel like that? Well this happened. The event location doesnt matter, so much as the line of realization in the events leading up to said climax, is what helps in understanding the most upon reflection. Self-reflection is necessary, if not crucially the key to it all, to be able to see this. Yes there are forces going in those situations that are uncontrollable, and as such are beyond the purpose of reflecting in the first place. What matters are the decisions/choices/actions that were personally made, during said events, that make apparent the inner truths of the individual. After that comes learning how to actually interpret the information and adapt it to begin to future proof yourself more and more. There are many smaller processes going on at once usually. Support is also extremely important if the afflicted/addicted begins to falter, as the first few times are ROUGH*. *Severity is probably more based on the individual of course. We are our own worst enemy.
We all get weak at times, I get that. Getting lost is part of the journey too. But choosing to give up rather than fight it on different fronts is often, where people fail to move beyond. That usually doesnt do it for me. So I share my knowledge and experiences freely when so prompted most times. If it helps someone, Im glad. I also know better than to waste good air/time on those who are just attention seeking. So while one comment on the internet may seem like I'm narrow of scope or mentally closed off, I'm far from it. Not offended either, as I can see your point, and it is quite valid.
The sad truth in the end, is that simply put, you cannot make a person get help they dont think/feel/view that they need. It has to be a(n) individual/personal choice to take those steps. Sometimes the consequences and results necessary to awaken to it are steep. I personally was hard headed and prideful. So it hurt hitting that wall full force, oblivious to the reality I had created around myself for such lengths of time. But so long as you dont lose anything, mind/limbs/etc, youll heal.
(Personal) Accountability and Responsibility become vital in the healing process once that realization is made, and more importantly accepted. After that it's just a matter of time and personal pacing. Learning to alter the perspective on situations during reflective moments leads to even deeper understandings often, and teaches open mindedness in the process. Whether it takes or not is again based upon the individual's acceptance of said ability or not.
There has to be a fire ignited inside that says enough... otherwise each attempt will be met with relapse.
I personally just dont like weakness. Including my own, which is what drove me to find a way to get better. Doesn't mean I belittle those who fail more than they succeed, or those who think that quitting at the start is valid. Honestly I'm there cheering them on, telling them not to fear it, cause its just part of themselves. I just dont mince words. Hesistation/doubt is death to the process of healing/recovery. Being brutally honest is usually one of the few things that can break it and stop regression. So why start out coddled? This isnt for me, it's for you sort of awakening hopefully occurs, and soon leads to baby steps forward again. Which builds confidence over time, as well as defenses that help cope with tumbles/stumbles.
There is no middle ground, when it comes to addiction.
Addendum: Have an UpTrump. Good civil discussion on a rather sensitive topic. Kudos