Not all children who are abused end up that way. Some of us find other coping mechanisms. Maybe not the best coping mechanisms but allowed us to be mostly normal. Mine was simply a straight black or white view point. It was either right or wrong and I don't really see things in a grey area. I had to have a psychiatric eval after suffering a horrific injury at work and the psychiatrist stated by all rights given my childhood I should have been a career criminal and he's right I was headed down that path. I was very violent, antisocial, drinking all the time at 16, ditching school and a teacher said, "You're smart and you have a choice. You going to be your Dad or are you going to be better? You've a crap hand up to this point but are you going to let it control you for the rest of it?"
Maybe my black or white viewpoint isn't the best but it's allowed me to be a father and a good husband and to be an almost semi normal guy.
Those guys up above are broken. They have zero moral compass at all. They are lost where there is no black or white at all. They never had that person come forward and say, "You have a choice do you let your past continue to control your life going forward or do you make the decision to take control of it and determine where you want to go?"
I kind of feel lucky that I was strong enough to decide that I wasn't going to let my past control me. That on my 20th birthday I said, "Everything changes today but first one last fucking big ass party."
Joined the Army, got married, and left all that shit behind all within a four month period of time and never looked back.
Not all children who are abused end up that way. Some of us find other coping mechanisms. Maybe not the best coping mechanisms but allowed us to be mostly normal. Mine was simply a straight black or white view point. It was either right or wrong and I don't really see things in a grey area. I had to have a psychiatric eval after suffering a horrific injury at work and the psychiatrist stated by all rights given my childhood I should have been a career criminal and he's right I was headed down that path. I was very violent, antisocial, drinking all the time at 16, ditching school and a teacher said, "You're smart and you have a choice. You going to be your Dad or are you going to be better? You've a crap hand up to this point but are you going to let it control you for the rest of it?" Maybe my black or white viewpoint isn't the best but it's allowed me to be a father and a good husband and to be an almost semi normal guy.
Those guys up above are broken. They have zero moral compass at all. They are lost where there is no black or white at all. They never had that person come forward and say, "You have a choice do you let your past continue to control your life going forward or do you make the decision to take control of it and determine where you want to go?"
I kind of feel lucky that I was strong enough to decide that I wasn't going to let my past control me. That on my 20th birthday I said, "Everything changes today but first one last fucking big ass party."
Joined the Army, got married, and left all that shit behind all within a four month period of time and never looked back.