Yowser!

I'm glad you've had good experiences with that. I personally have not, and what made it worse is that for a long time I thought that I had. A few years ago I ended up become really close to a genuine small town good church girl. Kept her V card despite being 27, elementary music teacher, father was a Reverend, lived in a tiny town in Oklahoma, never drank, never swore, the whole bit. We got really close as friends online through a really nerdy hobby and I didn't even know she was a girl for about 6 months, didn't know her name or what she looked like for another 6, so our closeness was absolutely based on shared interests, values, personality and all that. The only real difference we had was she was a Christian while I no longer was, though she said she really appreciated that I didn't scorn her for it as other people had while she was in college. We finally ended up meeting in person, instantly were super attracted to each other, fought it for a few months, then finally ended up dating. Because of her I finally started reading the Bible again for the first time in like 10 years, started asking religious questions, we started listening to Christian podcasts and reading books about Christianity and Godly relationships, and started talking about getting married.

Then, from what she told me since the rest of this all happened without me even knowing or being there to see it, she told her Reverend father that we had discussed getting married. He got furious, forbade her from speaking to me or seeing me ever again because I wasn't a member of the church. It didn't matter that I had started looking into faith again because of her. Since I hadn't "arrived" yet, marrying me was in violation of the "don't be unevenly yoked" thing, and I was to be cut out of her life entirely and never spoke of or to again or else she'd be disowned and kicked out of the family. I found out all of this a few days after the last time we went out. She had mentioned wanting to invite me to Thanksgiving (of 2019) with her family, and I said I was thinking about asking her father permission to ask her to marry me. 3 days later, I got a text from her telling me we were done, she could never speak to me or see me again because I wasn't a Christian, and that was that. I tried contacting her a few weeks later hoping things had settled and cooler minds had taken control, maybe her Reverend father would have realized that I was actually on the path back to faith, as his job is supposed to prioritize, and that he could have picked some other path, like saying I can't marry his daughter or date her anymore unless I become a Christian again, but we could still be friends and that he would love to keep speaking with me about faith to see if I could make the leap. Nope. I was cut off and cut out and that was that. She was super cold and hostile to me for even trying to contact her again, and blocked me. I saw on Instagram a little after that that she had already started dating someone new, that her father approved of clearly based on the picture of her and her new bf standing with her parents at a holiday party.

Suffice to say, I know that she was "the one". After being friends for a year, best friends for another year, finally fighting being attracted to each other for several months, and then dating for another year, I know she was it. And that door got slammed in my face because of their faith. So I have very little confidence in the whole "Jesus" and "marry a good Christian woman" thing anymore. I learned that lesson the very hard way. I'm glad it worked out for you, but I tried giving it a shot, and it was the faith and church thing itself that was used as a weapon against me by all of the people who were supposed to care about saving souls and all that most of all. I ain't putting my hand on that stove hoping it's cool again.