It sounds as if you miss the friendship and still value her in some measure. If that's the case, pick up the phone and tell her how you feel. You don't want to live your life with any regrets.
I had a dear friend of over forty years who was a rabid liberal and hated Trump. We had a falling out and I always thought we'd make up "someday" but I was angry and thought I had time to spare.
But he died. And we were still estranged. I wish we had reconciled before the end.
Life is too short to cut people you value out of your life...if you still care about them.
Well..at 21 -- the odds are you've got a lot of living ahead of you. And if it's any consolation -- I can promise you that things which seem like disasters now will appear when you're 31 to be molehills, rather than the mountains they seemed at the time they occurred.
By the time you look in the mirror one day and realize that you're actually old -- you'll look back on your life and wish you had allowed yourself to be happier.
As crazy as it seems, being happy (as you discover late in life) is really as much of a choice as any other thing in life. It just takes shifting your perspective to focus on the blessings in your life (and I'm sure if you really thought about it, you could identify many) and keeping yourself occupied with something you enjoy when the doldrums overcome you.
It sounds too good to be true, doesn't it? But I didn't discover this until I was past thirty and it truly does work. Take care and be blessed.
We all fall short and true friends will understand this. Also, remember that when it comes to connections and relations we only know what we believe to be true. We tend to over think or over hype all the good and bad facets we perceive. The other side(s) of these connections do the same. Onlookers and those cross connected do this too. Add it all up, include the self preservations of each individual, the comforting and coercions built within external and internal interests, and divide that all by the factor of being hurt and discouraged. What you’re left with is your own will. I’ll never know what you or she has done to cause the disconnect and animosity. You could lay your facts and emotions out in a novel and I wouldn’t know; however, I do know that you cannot control someone else, but you do control your own happiness. Learn from your mistakes and strive to be better today than you were yesterday.
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It sounds as if you miss the friendship and still value her in some measure. If that's the case, pick up the phone and tell her how you feel. You don't want to live your life with any regrets.
I had a dear friend of over forty years who was a rabid liberal and hated Trump. We had a falling out and I always thought we'd make up "someday" but I was angry and thought I had time to spare.
But he died. And we were still estranged. I wish we had reconciled before the end.
Life is too short to cut people you value out of your life...if you still care about them.
Well..at 21 -- the odds are you've got a lot of living ahead of you. And if it's any consolation -- I can promise you that things which seem like disasters now will appear when you're 31 to be molehills, rather than the mountains they seemed at the time they occurred.
By the time you look in the mirror one day and realize that you're actually old -- you'll look back on your life and wish you had allowed yourself to be happier.
As crazy as it seems, being happy (as you discover late in life) is really as much of a choice as any other thing in life. It just takes shifting your perspective to focus on the blessings in your life (and I'm sure if you really thought about it, you could identify many) and keeping yourself occupied with something you enjoy when the doldrums overcome you.
It sounds too good to be true, doesn't it? But I didn't discover this until I was past thirty and it truly does work. Take care and be blessed.
We all fall short and true friends will understand this. Also, remember that when it comes to connections and relations we only know what we believe to be true. We tend to over think or over hype all the good and bad facets we perceive. The other side(s) of these connections do the same. Onlookers and those cross connected do this too. Add it all up, include the self preservations of each individual, the comforting and coercions built within external and internal interests, and divide that all by the factor of being hurt and discouraged. What you’re left with is your own will. I’ll never know what you or she has done to cause the disconnect and animosity. You could lay your facts and emotions out in a novel and I wouldn’t know; however, I do know that you cannot control someone else, but you do control your own happiness. Learn from your mistakes and strive to be better today than you were yesterday.
I'm crying laughing at this post. move on. this is ridiculous high school bs
you'll be fine. make new friends. I've lost plenty for various reasons. your life will have many seasons. let go of it and move on.