No you cant that's the point you must kill your enemy you must kill everyone who holds that belief you have to make opposition more horrid than submission. If opposition and resistance is a viable option you will not defeat what you seek to defeat. That's our failure. Well if we treat them well they will see the light. No if you allow it to dwell that's exactly what will happen. Cortez won because he utterly destroyed the will to practice native barbarism. Ceasers conquered the ancient world through the most brutal means imaginable and fell when they started accepting foriegn foreign culture. Atilla won through whole and total domination. Anything less than submission is not victory. There is no sanitary feel good we're all winners and you get a trophy too victory in war. What is most brutal is to extinguish life and that is war. Not I'm standing on your property I win.