Happened to me. It took a few conversations with a guy I was seeing. He listened to my concerns and then shared articles and pointed out inconsistencies with how I was feeling in comparison to what was fact. I'll forever be grateful for his leadership. He didn't have to make the effort.
Too many women think that “thinking for yourself” means never change your mind and that if you and a man disagree then the man is wrong and disregard him. So good on you for actually being receptive to his leadership, it’s unfortunately rarer than you may think.
I'll agree with you there. I considered myself feminist for years and thought that meant taking an opposite stance about anything a man would stand for, which turned out to be entirely toxic. I'm grateful with time I learned to value good conversation and appreciate the differences of how our minds work rather than go in battling every time. It exhausting living that way and undeniably unfulfilling as a woman to be at arms with the opposite sex. I remember thinking back I wanted to "lose" anyway and now I don't recall why I was fighting so hard.
Happened to me. It took a few conversations with a guy I was seeing. He listened to my concerns and then shared articles and pointed out inconsistencies with how I was feeling in comparison to what was fact. I'll forever be grateful for his leadership. He didn't have to make the effort.
Too many women think that “thinking for yourself” means never change your mind and that if you and a man disagree then the man is wrong and disregard him. So good on you for actually being receptive to his leadership, it’s unfortunately rarer than you may think.
I'll agree with you there. I considered myself feminist for years and thought that meant taking an opposite stance about anything a man would stand for, which turned out to be entirely toxic. I'm grateful with time I learned to value good conversation and appreciate the differences of how our minds work rather than go in battling every time. It exhausting living that way and undeniably unfulfilling as a woman to be at arms with the opposite sex. I remember thinking back I wanted to "lose" anyway and now I don't recall why I was fighting so hard.