Cannot get this straight (no pun intended). So a man becomes a woman, when do you start addressing him as her? When one speaks of a transsexual do you say he has became a woman or she became a man? At what point does one use the appropriate pronoun? Is it when they decide to transition, is it before they "realize" they are the opposite sex, is it once they have surgery? What if they are a lesbian trapped in a man's body or vice versa? This is confusing. We are not groupers (if you don't know what I am talking about look it up).