Let me strongly recommend you stop trying for kids until this gets sorted out. Do you honestly want someone pushing gender fluidity on your child? Because if she’s this far in, it will only get worse once pregnant.
it’s really only been after I introduced her to Instagram and to Twitch
it’s gotten more radicalized, all BLM, pronouns, anti-Trump slactivism
WOW
Introducing her to sites that implicitly encourage human trafficking turns a collectivist mind into a terrible human being????
Never would have guessed.
Women are shaped by their environment and if you give her access to a bad one she is going to take on those toxic aspects of the environment fast.
Recently she said “I don’t like what you are turning into” “you are turning into people I avoid” “go support your lord Drumpf” and it comes across as condescending, mean, and also not accepting. She apologized for the lord part. But she says it is just an observation and sorry for hurting my feelings.
I'm going to be straight with you, you have to force her to pick between you or her smartphone. Chances are she is going to pick the smartphone.
You can keep up the charade for a few more years, kick the can down a few more times, and divorce messily and chaotically or you can rip off the band-aid altogether.
Or you can show her the worst examples of IG and Twatch, show the horror stories and how unhappy these people are and how they take it out on others, and then tell her she can pick them for company over you. Show her the video clips of BLM stealing the shoes off their comrades and tell her, "OK, you can hang out with them over me."
Again, very brutal take here. You are seeing firsthand why the marriage rate is declining.
I pray you work through this dude. There are many people in America who are discovering that there are areas of growth and healing required in their relationships.
No one can give any meaningful advice from your post, except to encourage you to seek guidance from the Lord and see if you and your wife might benefit from counselling.
I think you'd be best to either delete this post, or ignore any post that offers you advice. Especially ignore the ones who are abusive or recommend that you do things that they have no basis to advise on.
I agree with the Pilgrim... DELETE this post. You don't need to put yourself out there for everyone else to see. Talk with your Dad or minister / Priest. Stay away from Social workers... They practice on people for their experience...
I completely understand. I told my husband I'd like to go to the Jan 6 Trump rally and he flat out refuses to accompany me. You would have thought I told him I wanted to climb the highest mountain; nude!
We've been together over 20 years and I never figured he was a marxist at heart. He is wicked intelligent and knows his way around D.C., and yet, he didn't vote - "I don't want the censor people to know where I live"; and prefers Biden because he'll get socialized/medicare benefits earlier.
I stopped sending him evidence of the steal, covid19 debunking articles, and vaccine warnings because he doesn't appreciate the truth. We watch different news affiliates because I refuse to watch Fox.
So, what do we do to keep the peace? Answer: pray they'll wake up and see the light. And if not, love them anyway.
Good luck
My spouse is a trump supporter but black pilled and we’ve been fighting about who will win ultimately. It’s been hard for everyone. Try to make it through the next few weeks and see how the chips fall. A lot of people will be waking up when our politicians start going to jail.
Sorry bro, you married a commie idiot. She let herself get turned into a radical after you supported reasonable hobbies. She threatened you with taking half your life. She's weak, you need to be strong. Give her one warning that her sudden commie bullshit will result in a very sudden separation, as she is blatantly attacking your beliefs and choices. Don't fuckin puss out.
Sorry to hear you are dealing with all that on top of the national drama. Personally, my spouse loves Trump too and we get angry together at the world. It's still stressful but I love that he supports the President. Regardless, remember your relationship is more than what is going on around us right now. If you do love her, and want your relationship to work, maybe find your way back to the things that brought you together. Good luck. It's not over yet! (The world drama, I mean, even though it fits for relationships).
My guess is she is the one who brings it up (politics or Orange Man Bad.)
If she won’t let it go and live peacefully, her misery and need to complain will suck the life out of you.
Tell her to stop. And, if she won’t, she’s indicating she doesn’t respect you and she won’t stop until you give in and change your values OR you leave her so she can continue her misery with someone else.
If all goes to shit and Trump can't retain the presidency, what affect do you think that'll have on your relationship? If "lord Drumpf" is gone, will it be easier for her to focus on you as an individual instead of your ideologies?
I think most marital issues can be resolved if both parties are willing to try. And sometimes trying is hard. However, if you can't get her on board, she's going to suck the soul from your body. Maybe not today, but slowly over time. I won't advocate for your divorce but she's either respectful to you or that's a big hurdle to overcome psychologically. Yuge. And a long miserable life.
Let me strongly recommend you stop trying for kids until this gets sorted out. Do you honestly want someone pushing gender fluidity on your child? Because if she’s this far in, it will only get worse once pregnant.
Sorry, I'm going to be brutally honest over this.
WOW
Introducing her to sites that implicitly encourage human trafficking turns a collectivist mind into a terrible human being????
Never would have guessed.
Women are shaped by their environment and if you give her access to a bad one she is going to take on those toxic aspects of the environment fast.
I'm going to be straight with you, you have to force her to pick between you or her smartphone. Chances are she is going to pick the smartphone.
You can keep up the charade for a few more years, kick the can down a few more times, and divorce messily and chaotically or you can rip off the band-aid altogether.
Or you can show her the worst examples of IG and Twatch, show the horror stories and how unhappy these people are and how they take it out on others, and then tell her she can pick them for company over you. Show her the video clips of BLM stealing the shoes off their comrades and tell her, "OK, you can hang out with them over me."
Again, very brutal take here. You are seeing firsthand why the marriage rate is declining.
I pray you work through this dude. There are many people in America who are discovering that there are areas of growth and healing required in their relationships.
No one can give any meaningful advice from your post, except to encourage you to seek guidance from the Lord and see if you and your wife might benefit from counselling.
I think you'd be best to either delete this post, or ignore any post that offers you advice. Especially ignore the ones who are abusive or recommend that you do things that they have no basis to advise on.
I agree with the Pilgrim... DELETE this post. You don't need to put yourself out there for everyone else to see. Talk with your Dad or minister / Priest. Stay away from Social workers... They practice on people for their experience...
I completely understand. I told my husband I'd like to go to the Jan 6 Trump rally and he flat out refuses to accompany me. You would have thought I told him I wanted to climb the highest mountain; nude! We've been together over 20 years and I never figured he was a marxist at heart. He is wicked intelligent and knows his way around D.C., and yet, he didn't vote - "I don't want the censor people to know where I live"; and prefers Biden because he'll get socialized/medicare benefits earlier.
I stopped sending him evidence of the steal, covid19 debunking articles, and vaccine warnings because he doesn't appreciate the truth. We watch different news affiliates because I refuse to watch Fox.
So, what do we do to keep the peace? Answer: pray they'll wake up and see the light. And if not, love them anyway. Good luck
My spouse is a trump supporter but black pilled and we’ve been fighting about who will win ultimately. It’s been hard for everyone. Try to make it through the next few weeks and see how the chips fall. A lot of people will be waking up when our politicians start going to jail.
Thanks for the encouragement 🙏
Sorry bro, you married a commie idiot. She let herself get turned into a radical after you supported reasonable hobbies. She threatened you with taking half your life. She's weak, you need to be strong. Give her one warning that her sudden commie bullshit will result in a very sudden separation, as she is blatantly attacking your beliefs and choices. Don't fuckin puss out.
Sorry to hear you are dealing with all that on top of the national drama. Personally, my spouse loves Trump too and we get angry together at the world. It's still stressful but I love that he supports the President. Regardless, remember your relationship is more than what is going on around us right now. If you do love her, and want your relationship to work, maybe find your way back to the things that brought you together. Good luck. It's not over yet! (The world drama, I mean, even though it fits for relationships).
What is your marriage based on? Go back to that.
For my marriage, it is all about God. We pray together and study the word every day.
Find God together. Nothing else matters.
My guess is she is the one who brings it up (politics or Orange Man Bad.)
If she won’t let it go and live peacefully, her misery and need to complain will suck the life out of you.
Tell her to stop. And, if she won’t, she’s indicating she doesn’t respect you and she won’t stop until you give in and change your values OR you leave her so she can continue her misery with someone else.
If all goes to shit and Trump can't retain the presidency, what affect do you think that'll have on your relationship? If "lord Drumpf" is gone, will it be easier for her to focus on you as an individual instead of your ideologies?
I think most marital issues can be resolved if both parties are willing to try. And sometimes trying is hard. However, if you can't get her on board, she's going to suck the soul from your body. Maybe not today, but slowly over time. I won't advocate for your divorce but she's either respectful to you or that's a big hurdle to overcome psychologically. Yuge. And a long miserable life.