not if your wife is already in the delivery room hooked up to monitors. not only is it almost logistically impossible at that point. even if you do manage to get upstairs to the labor dept, get her outta there, and somehow find another hospital to go to, you will forever look like the asshole from your wife. not worth it if you ask me. its a zero-sum game and you will forever be the dickhead.
I did a midwife group that had some sort of agreement with a hospital. All my checkups were at their small clinic while the actual l&d was in the hospital with one of the midwives. Midwife and nurses were all about helping me through an unmedicated birth while some of the best ob's in the state were just down the hall if shit hit the fan. I hope if kid #2 ever happens, I can find a similar set up.
Just a heads up to others. I looked into this. If you don’t do home birth first time, and are not careful, you may never be able to do home birth.
Why?
C-section is the method of choice for many Doctors. It helps them reduce liability (to be fair in USA we are land of the lawsuit), plus it helps they get to charge your insurance a bit more.
Not too much wrong with this. Fairly harmless so far. Except. Recovery takes much longer. Oh and if you get a C-section once, they will 100% recommend you get a C-section for the next kid. One overly cautious Dr leads to a lifetime subscription of C-sections. They practically tell you it’s required because it was done the first time, regardless of circumstances.
Not hating on C-sections. Just like I don’t hate medical masks. I only hate unnecessary ones.
I normally support natural medicine 100% but both me and my baby would've died if I'd have gone the midwife route. Ended up with emergency c section when baby's heart rate dropped after I pushed for 9 hours.
Ugh I’m sorry you had such a difficult labor. I completely agree with you. I wanted a medication-free birth so badly- my husband and I even took Bradley method classes for hours a week for months. But then I ended up having to be induced and was in active labor with my water broken for over 72 hours and pushed for about 3 hours (I have no idea how you did 9!)
So while I think completely natural births are favorable and I wish I didn’t have to be induced, I’m just grateful that my son and I are alive. Oftentimes the medical assistance doesn’t make it easier at all.
I'm sorry you had that birth experience! It sounds so tough! While i don't know your situation, I would argue that having a skilled midwife would have prevented that situation. Out of hospital births with a knowledable midwife are likely to be very aware of baby's position and do everything they can make sure baby is in the optimal position for birth. Midwives who do out of hospital birth are very incentivized to have a low risk and healthy birth. I know it's too late to change your experience, but just want to give some insight for others who may be considering other options. I've done a hospital birth, birthing center, and home birth so I've seen the pros and cons of each option.
When my wife delivered our girls (1st and 3rd) both deliveries took about 10 minutes. Didn't have time for drugs the first time, and I delivered my daughter in my hallway the last time.
No drugs needed.
My son on the other hand, she was in labor for so long the drugs wore off and they couldn't give her more.
Threaten to go to a different hospital and they'll be afraid to lose that money
No they don't give a shit, trust me. And she's already in a room, ie accruing charges. Sorry!
pretty sure they already got the covid funding on signed entry documents.
not if your wife is already in the delivery room hooked up to monitors. not only is it almost logistically impossible at that point. even if you do manage to get upstairs to the labor dept, get her outta there, and somehow find another hospital to go to, you will forever look like the asshole from your wife. not worth it if you ask me. its a zero-sum game and you will forever be the dickhead.
Sir, this is a Wendy's.
My wife wouldn't see me as an asshole cuz she wouldn't want to put up with that shit
Currently 8 months pregnant. I completely agree. My husband would be the hero in this situation, certainly not an asshole.
Same. My wife would not want to be stuck in some prison like that.
This put in the transfer papers and hire a midwife for an at home birth, Transfer her home.
I did a midwife group that had some sort of agreement with a hospital. All my checkups were at their small clinic while the actual l&d was in the hospital with one of the midwives. Midwife and nurses were all about helping me through an unmedicated birth while some of the best ob's in the state were just down the hall if shit hit the fan. I hope if kid #2 ever happens, I can find a similar set up.
Don't do home birth your first time.
To much to go wrong with massive consequences.
Just a heads up to others. I looked into this. If you don’t do home birth first time, and are not careful, you may never be able to do home birth.
Why? C-section is the method of choice for many Doctors. It helps them reduce liability (to be fair in USA we are land of the lawsuit), plus it helps they get to charge your insurance a bit more.
Not too much wrong with this. Fairly harmless so far. Except. Recovery takes much longer. Oh and if you get a C-section once, they will 100% recommend you get a C-section for the next kid. One overly cautious Dr leads to a lifetime subscription of C-sections. They practically tell you it’s required because it was done the first time, regardless of circumstances.
Not hating on C-sections. Just like I don’t hate medical masks. I only hate unnecessary ones.
Yes!! And do a natural birth without drugs. It's the way the lord intended ✝️
I normally support natural medicine 100% but both me and my baby would've died if I'd have gone the midwife route. Ended up with emergency c section when baby's heart rate dropped after I pushed for 9 hours.
Ugh I’m sorry you had such a difficult labor. I completely agree with you. I wanted a medication-free birth so badly- my husband and I even took Bradley method classes for hours a week for months. But then I ended up having to be induced and was in active labor with my water broken for over 72 hours and pushed for about 3 hours (I have no idea how you did 9!) So while I think completely natural births are favorable and I wish I didn’t have to be induced, I’m just grateful that my son and I are alive. Oftentimes the medical assistance doesn’t make it easier at all.
I'm sorry you had that birth experience! It sounds so tough! While i don't know your situation, I would argue that having a skilled midwife would have prevented that situation. Out of hospital births with a knowledable midwife are likely to be very aware of baby's position and do everything they can make sure baby is in the optimal position for birth. Midwives who do out of hospital birth are very incentivized to have a low risk and healthy birth. I know it's too late to change your experience, but just want to give some insight for others who may be considering other options. I've done a hospital birth, birthing center, and home birth so I've seen the pros and cons of each option.
When my wife delivered our girls (1st and 3rd) both deliveries took about 10 minutes. Didn't have time for drugs the first time, and I delivered my daughter in my hallway the last time.
No drugs needed.
My son on the other hand, she was in labor for so long the drugs wore off and they couldn't give her more.
Place wouldn't give a shit less for you to leave
And this is why it continues