“Most white racists in 2021 are not hateful TBH. I mean, they are still racist and it's still wrong, but most of them get to that place as backlash from leftwing racism. And most of them don't wish ill on other races, they just want to be left alone.”

What you described above as being racist is not even close to being racist. What you described makes them normal human beings. I hope you just mistyped and don’t actually believe that.