Went like this.

Me: Too bad about the few at the capital who did bad things. Probably agitators.

Him: Yeah I kind of agree. But I just wish it never got to this point. The racist stuff Trump says doesn't help.

Me: Oh yeah... er I mean, well what racist stuff exactly?

Him: Well you know just all that stuff.

Me: No I can't think of anything... can you give me a specific example?

Him:....

Me: I need a specific example. I really want to know what he said because if he did that's terrible!

Him: well I can't think of anything right now but yeah...

Me: Can I tell you about Charlottesville?