Yup, I'm here for the woman aspect. Had complete faith in the system, with blinders on and constantly pushed the narrative I was told to. Then my ex-wife went to university for graduate studies and started telling me how all the things I was doing was oppressive to women, including asking her for a BJ (this has significance because the first time we had sex she gave me a BJ. We were young and BJs weren't quite so common at the time. I remember mentioning to her the BJ was unexpected. She told me she thought i might like that with a smile. Now, instead of desiring to please me she saw everything I wanted as oppressive to her.) She started angling everything into some sort of power game between her and I where she always needed to retain more power and dominance. My marriage ended after I couldn't take it any longer. Went dating again and was like WTF HAPPENED TO WOMEN?!?!? Then I went seeking answers and now I'm here.
Sorry to hear that. You know what they say though? You only get married twice!
After about 4 years of trying and easily 100+ dates/women, I'm now back to just playing video games and I don't even try to date anymore. Covid-19 was the final nail. Literally 0 point now.
My only advice is try to meet the girl outside of dating apps, you'll have more success. People go to dating app dates with a list and are on their defensive to quickly judge you then move on because they've got a whole desert tray of people they can choose from. If you meet the person organically, people actually give you a chance and let the relationship develop fairly naturally instead of being so quick to judge, like through dating apps.
Yup, I'm here for the woman aspect. Had complete faith in the system, with blinders on and constantly pushed the narrative I was told to. Then my ex-wife went to university for graduate studies and started telling me how all the things I was doing was oppressive to women, including asking her for a BJ (this has significance because the first time we had sex she gave me a BJ. We were young and BJs weren't quite so common at the time. I remember mentioning to her the BJ was unexpected. She told me she thought i might like that with a smile. Now, instead of desiring to please me she saw everything I wanted as oppressive to her.) She started angling everything into some sort of power game between her and I where she always needed to retain more power and dominance. My marriage ended after I couldn't take it any longer. Went dating again and was like WTF HAPPENED TO WOMEN?!?!? Then I went seeking answers and now I'm here.
As someone recently seperated but not ready to head back out there I’m now like “uhh what am I getting myself into” 😅
Sorry to hear that. You know what they say though? You only get married twice!
After about 4 years of trying and easily 100+ dates/women, I'm now back to just playing video games and I don't even try to date anymore. Covid-19 was the final nail. Literally 0 point now.
My only advice is try to meet the girl outside of dating apps, you'll have more success. People go to dating app dates with a list and are on their defensive to quickly judge you then move on because they've got a whole desert tray of people they can choose from. If you meet the person organically, people actually give you a chance and let the relationship develop fairly naturally instead of being so quick to judge, like through dating apps.
Good luck.
Thanks for the kind words and advice my friend.
I'm concentrating on renovating my house to sell, running, video games and being more active in interacting socially atm.