Not true, marriage can be a wonderful thing but u gotta marry ur best friend that's the secret. If u do this, communicate, & grow together then there's nothing can't do together. A good marriage is the most powerful thing there is. Don't allow urself to fall for that propaganda. They would very much like u to believe this. Just hold out for the right one.
I dislike this position. You and your wife will have many different components to your relationship: she will be your wife, your lover, your business partner (insofar as the household is a business), and co-parent to your children. Adding "best friend" to this list is putting a lot of eggs in one basket. Ties and relationships outside your nuclear family make your family stronger and safer. Your best friend should be another man and her best friend should be another woman. You both need someone to talk to other than each other on occasion.
Ok, I used the term "best friend" & perhaps it was not the best choice. I chose "best friend" because in the most general sense pretty much everyone has a very similar idea of what this title would require in another human & what this position would basically cover. We all have an idea of what a best friends is & the level of value they bring to our lives. This i where my process for choosing this particular label ended. Everyone is very different obviously. Some people have many "best friends" for different purposes others (like myself for example) prefer the company of ourselves & a "best friend" is not an endeavor we would likely take on any time soon. However, that doesn't mean I don't understand why people have them. Men are just an entirely different "species" so to speak from women. The friendship that men have with one another esp when very close is a spectacular dynamic which is quite beautiful. If it is pure & healthy it is a bond unlike any other 'I've ever seen between 2 humans. It is a deep understanding & acceptance of who the other is faults flaws included. Men as a whole are simple (not mentally or intelligently} I mean black or white, yes or no, up or down. There's an unspoken level of respect w/in a male dominant structure & when tensions get heated (as they almost always do ) a Mexican standoff in whatever form must take place & almost always makes it all right as rain once again. I would say it is prob a necessity for every man to have at least 1 friend like this in his life. Women however are much, much different. We are complicated, no black or white 1,000,000 shades of gray. Nothing is simple. Women with women ....phewww
Woman are vindictive, malicious, scandalous there are different levels & extremes, but I have never seen a "best friend" scenario w/women that was pure, honest, selfless & consisted of genuine love. Women pacify, rationalize coddle, protect, rollbacks sacrifice one another.
All that taken into account I understand your perspective & opinion. I would say that I even mostly agree w/you. The person you chose to share your life w/ should your equal opposite. The should not be on a pedestal nor below or beneath you. Someone that compliments you (as a person) contradicts you ( as an ego) & calibrates you as a frame of reference. Someone that sees you for what you are, accepts who you've been & awaits what you could become. A person that can pick up the slack & be strong when you feel weak. There must be honestly, openness, comfort, appeal, attraction, respect & communication. This is the person you've chosen to share your life with & build a life together with it is important to know your idea & theirs headed in the same direction.
I disagree in only that for me I have no desire for "acquaintances" um I believe most call them "friends". So a "best" one would imply 1 over the rest, the best. I absolutely am not in a hurry to have females to "talk to" I don't talk like that (I'm a very private person) I like conversation but good & meaty or not at all. Soo.....
I am a grown woman that understands why it isn't acceptable to have a male friend if I'm in a relationship. So for me "best friend" & what the term implies is also what I require in a partner. I don't experience jealously, so he may be friends w/whomever the best title going wherever it would go. I coud care less.
I apologize for the "lengthy" explanation. I felt I should for clarity’s sake. .
Marriage is bullshit and not worth it for men today.
Not true, marriage can be a wonderful thing but u gotta marry ur best friend that's the secret. If u do this, communicate, & grow together then there's nothing can't do together. A good marriage is the most powerful thing there is. Don't allow urself to fall for that propaganda. They would very much like u to believe this. Just hold out for the right one.
I dislike this position. You and your wife will have many different components to your relationship: she will be your wife, your lover, your business partner (insofar as the household is a business), and co-parent to your children. Adding "best friend" to this list is putting a lot of eggs in one basket. Ties and relationships outside your nuclear family make your family stronger and safer. Your best friend should be another man and her best friend should be another woman. You both need someone to talk to other than each other on occasion.
Ok, I used the term "best friend" & perhaps it was not the best choice. I chose "best friend" because in the most general sense pretty much everyone has a very similar idea of what this title would require in another human & what this position would basically cover. We all have an idea of what a best friends is & the level of value they bring to our lives. This i where my process for choosing this particular label ended. Everyone is very different obviously. Some people have many "best friends" for different purposes others (like myself for example) prefer the company of ourselves & a "best friend" is not an endeavor we would likely take on any time soon. However, that doesn't mean I don't understand why people have them. Men are just an entirely different "species" so to speak from women. The friendship that men have with one another esp when very close is a spectacular dynamic which is quite beautiful. If it is pure & healthy it is a bond unlike any other 'I've ever seen between 2 humans. It is a deep understanding & acceptance of who the other is faults flaws included. Men as a whole are simple (not mentally or intelligently} I mean black or white, yes or no, up or down. There's an unspoken level of respect w/in a male dominant structure & when tensions get heated (as they almost always do ) a Mexican standoff in whatever form must take place & almost always makes it all right as rain once again. I would say it is prob a necessity for every man to have at least 1 friend like this in his life. Women however are much, much different. We are complicated, no black or white 1,000,000 shades of gray. Nothing is simple. Women with women ....phewww Woman are vindictive, malicious, scandalous there are different levels & extremes, but I have never seen a "best friend" scenario w/women that was pure, honest, selfless & consisted of genuine love. Women pacify, rationalize coddle, protect, rollbacks sacrifice one another. All that taken into account I understand your perspective & opinion. I would say that I even mostly agree w/you. The person you chose to share your life w/ should your equal opposite. The should not be on a pedestal nor below or beneath you. Someone that compliments you (as a person) contradicts you ( as an ego) & calibrates you as a frame of reference. Someone that sees you for what you are, accepts who you've been & awaits what you could become. A person that can pick up the slack & be strong when you feel weak. There must be honestly, openness, comfort, appeal, attraction, respect & communication. This is the person you've chosen to share your life with & build a life together with it is important to know your idea & theirs headed in the same direction. I disagree in only that for me I have no desire for "acquaintances" um I believe most call them "friends". So a "best" one would imply 1 over the rest, the best. I absolutely am not in a hurry to have females to "talk to" I don't talk like that (I'm a very private person) I like conversation but good & meaty or not at all. Soo..... I am a grown woman that understands why it isn't acceptable to have a male friend if I'm in a relationship. So for me "best friend" & what the term implies is also what I require in a partner. I don't experience jealously, so he may be friends w/whomever the best title going wherever it would go. I coud care less. I apologize for the "lengthy" explanation. I felt I should for clarity’s sake. .