The most insidious thing about this that people dont realize until its too late: It is impossible to build wealth this way. Yes, your needs are met but you cant build anything up. As a woman, you wont own your home or have real income other than your disability check, which will only go so far and make saving impossible. You may go after the man during a bad breakup, but if hes not a moron he will be able to skate on that pretty easily (remember, his legal residence is still with mommy so common-law marriage wont apply).
You will find yourself at 45, with your kids gone or leaving, no real life skills or ability to hold a regular job, and a man who now has a house he owns outright kicking out his "tenant" as he goes out and gets a younger girlfriends. Now you have to take the $600 you have in the bank, a carload of stuff, and start life over...but now your benefits as a single person in their late 40s with no kids are more like $30,000/yr and the lowest end jobs (which are all you are capable of doing) only pay $20,000/yr and cost you ALL of your benefits.
The most insidious thing about this that people dont realize until its too late: It is impossible to build wealth this way. Yes, your needs are met but you cant build anything up. As a woman, you wont own your home or have real income other than your disability check, which will only go so far and make saving impossible. You may go after the man during a bad breakup, but if hes not a moron he will be able to skate on that pretty easily (remember, his legal residence is still with mommy so common-law marriage wont apply).
You will find yourself at 45, with your kids gone or leaving, no real life skills or ability to hold a regular job, and a man who now has a house he owns outright kicking out his "tenant" as he goes out and gets a younger girlfriends. Now you have to take the $600 you have in the bank, a carload of stuff, and start life over...but now your benefits as a single person in their late 40s with no kids are more like $30,000/yr and the lowest end jobs (which are all you are capable of doing) only pay $20,000/yr and cost you ALL of your benefits.