It all started when my girlfriend of 6+ years decided to fuck this other guy she on on New Year's Eve (actually, I think he took advantage of her and fucked her when she was too intoxicated to consent) that she knew. I decided to let it go since she told me she still wanted to be with me and that it was a mistake. Also, we had broken up a few days prior, so technically it wasn't cheating. However, we do have a pattern of "breaking up" and then getting back together a few days later. So even if it technically wasn't cheating, the time frame was so short that it's basically cheating. Anyways, I decided to let it go. She said she wanted to be with me, and told me she wouldn't have communication with this other guy.
Before I get to what happened last night, a little more background about this guy. Apparently this was a "friend" of hers from back in the day when she was in high school. Then one day, around 2 years ago, she decided to text him on his birthday. Ever since then, he constantly texts her with many of the texts being sexually explicit or sexual in nature. But she continued to communicate with him even though I've asked her several times to stop. Even before the new year's eve incident, she assured me she cut off all contact with him and blocked him.
Fast forward to last night. I go over to her house to celebrate my birthday with her (I planned on spending the night there last night, and celebrating with her last night and today). I was reluctant to go over today because the prior night she decided to binge drink by herself while cancelling plans we had to see each other that night. As you probably figured out, she has an alcohol abuse issue. So, I go over last night, and of course she's drunk. As I'm getting settled in, I notice her looking at her phone with this awkward guilty smile on her face. I asked her to let me see who she talking to. After some pressure, she finally admitted that it was that guy. She admitted that they didn't even use a condom that NYE night (something she lied about previously) and that she loves him. She begged me not to leave, and that she loves me and all that stuff. I told her I'd stay if she called him right then and there and ended it. She refused. I tried to leave, but she preceded to physically assault me while begging me not to leave. I told her I'd stay if she called him right there and did and ended it. She refused. When she realized her tactics to get me to stay weren't gonna work, she became more aggressive. I eventually was able to leave.
Fast forward to when I wake up today. I get a voicemail from her in which she blames me for what happened last night. All while she admits to still talking to this guy. This in addition to me having a falling out with my family because of their TDS makes this my worst birthday ever. Was it wrong of me to break up with my girlfriend because of this the night before my birthday when she bought me a bunch of presents before hand? I don't think it was.
On top of all this, I recently lost my job, so there's that too. 2021 fucking sucks for me so far, and 21 is supposed to be my lucky number.
Definitely should have stayed broken up with her are you kidding. Don’t be a pussy.
Happy birthday.
Technically not a whore since she received no monetary compensation or anything else of value for the sex. She is a slut (the bad kind) though.
dude, she's a slut then. Walk away. I'm a woman, trust me. Cut your losses, be glad she is no longer an obstacle to you meeting someone else that won't cheat or constantly break up.
Also, what she's doing is keeping that guy on the back burner, just so you know. She wants to be with you but she's keeping him on the hook in case things don't work with you. Don't be that guy.
SHE IS RIGHT.
You being a woman makes it more difficult for me to trust you. No offense. You're right though.
ok. you came to an anonymous message board to talk about your cheating girlfriend. I gave you my opinion. You can take it or leave it, makes no difference to me.
I'll bet you anything shes been fucking this guy for much longer than you think too, and whoever else along with it. I'd run as fast as I could away from her if I were you, it will only get worse 100%
She's still trying to monkey-branch you; that is, keeping you strung along with occasional sex until she finds someone she deems better.
Kick her to the curb.
Also, a trip to "Red Pill Men's Health" on Bitchute might do you some good.
No sense in getting mad at him, unless actual rape was involved. It takes two to tango, and she started that dance. Your best revenge is to watch her inevitably fuck him over (hypergamy does that almost without fail.)
I believe the two terms are similar, but frogs are cool, so... :)
I'm mad at him because he was apart of this. He knew she was with me, but still continued to aggressively pursue her while sending her inappropriate text messages. He's a fucking loser. I mean, I knew my ex before all this shit went down and she had her problems, but he's actually pursing her when he knows she has the problems she has. He couldn't find a girl who was single? Really?
I know she's trying to monkey-branch. That's why I broke up with her. I also hope the other guy dumps her too.
By the way, should I also be mad at him. I think so since he aggressively pursued her while sending sexually charged messages to her while knowing she was in a committed relationship with someone else. If he was none the wiser, and actually believed she was single, I wouldn't be mad at him. In fact, I'd try to convince him to also dump her and be friendly with him.
Also, is monkey-branching the same as "lily pad jumping"?
Dude what the fuck she is 100% poison
The relationship was toxic. It's really sad though because we really did love each other at one point, and it wasn't toxic. We used to get along really well. But she didn't respect me more than she loved me, and if a woman doesn't respect you more than she loves you, the relationship is doomed.
Thats EXACTLY it! She didn't respect you but its your fault. You were doing something that made you seem weak or below her. It is extremely hard to get her to respect you once you lost her respect. Its best to move on, delete her from social media, and workout.
You were right, she was wrong (from what you've said). But I've got you beat for worst birthday - mine was Jan. 20th.
That also happened to me four days before my birthday, so add that to what also happened with my girlfriend, and mine's worse. But I really don't want to have that kind of a competition with you.
There is no reason to stay in an abusive relationship and endure the dishonesty and parasitism. Some people must be removed from your life. She was clearly leeching off your energy. Move on.
Happy Birthday, and get well! Get some good Hopium here or on GAW (we have some very good Hopium there, even if you don't like Q), watch your favorite movie, go out or order food if you can, invite a friend for a BBQ if the weather is OK in your state or region.
God bless you, I will be praying for you.
What's GAW?
Its the greatawakening.win site on here lol
I was waiting for the line about dropping your tendies on the floor. It never came. Now I’m wondering what the fuck you are doing with this woman? Bro... move on!!! Improve yourself. Value yourself. You do those two things and someone with those same views will find you.
In the meantime. Block her from your phone, give her all of her shit back..
Do I have to? Can't I just throw it away?
Box it up and ship it. Keep your distance.
Give it back to her. You throw it out and she’ll use you throwing her shit out as an excuse to keep in touch with her and could sue you for the value.
Trust me, send it all back in perfect condition. It'll piss her off way more.
Never date an alcoholic.
You should have never taken her back after she cheated on you the first time.
Bingo.
Leave with your dignity and don't look back. BUY A BODY CAMERA. She sounds like she'll ruin your life. Prepare to sue if neccesary.
Bro, if half of what you said was true that’s a very toxic fucking relationship. I mean you casually mentioned on again off again like that’s totally normal. You did the right thing, focus on yourself and your mental health and take up a hobby that gets you out of the house if you don’t already have one. Just getting out alone or with friends is a great way to clear your head.
Best of luck my friend.
Get rid of stuff that reminds you of her too OP. Throw yourself into hobbies, friends, and exercise and she'll be a memory in no time.
Does that include getting rid of my PS4 she bought me? (actually she didn't buy it for me. Her brother in law bought it for her (us) and she gave it to me).
nope, it wasnt the wrong choice. it may suck now but you're better off
Whore. No offense.
2021 will be a great year, if you choose to make it great. Move forward with that big move. Start that new career. Be in the right place for your success.
NO!
Don’t date liberals.
Just fuck them !!
Don't do either, they'll leave their evil spirits inside you.
LMAO
The comment is leaning more towards sticking it to them not sticking it in them.
Way too many red flags/drama with this chick! You will be happier in the long run! Go do something for YOURSELF to enjoy your birthday :)
That sucks bro but you fought your way through a forest of massive red flags....
If you even think about going back to her I have to visit you to give you a slap.
Everything else does not matter in relationship to what I'm going to tell you right now. So listen up.
Never let another woman treat you this way again. Not ever.
Yeah she sounds like a manipulative bitch to me, and you could probably throw a stone and find a better woman than that. Idk what’s wrong with women nowadays but they think they can walk all over a guy and get away with it. Find you someone that treats you how you treat them and don’t put up with bullshit like that. Good luck and happy birthday!
That kind of back and forth cycle is a fucking killer to deal with but listen very carefully: That was a toxic relationship and there was no way she was going to suddenly come to her senses and be the person you wanted her to be. You deserve someone way way better than that. Relationship without total honesty is just a time bomb. Sorry it went down in such a fucked way man... Try to take some solid time away from relationships and sex to really get a sense of what you want moving forward.
She was the person I wanted her to be (or at least pretty damn close) (there's a reason why I love her), but then something happened and she became the monster that she is.
Something didn't happen, she just revealed her true self. Your image of her in the beginning was just that, an image.
THIS.
I think you're right, and this is why I'm going to do my best to avoid dating women over 25 from now on. You see, women over 25 are thinking about marriage and kids. Therefore, they won't present their true self to you. They'll present a character because ultimately, they're trying to con you into marrying them for their own selfish reasons, so you won't see who she really is until it's too late. Women under 25, however, don't really care about marriage yet, so they're more likely to present their true selves in the beginning.
She's a fucking drunk mess. She will never change until she stops drinking. Nut up and grow up. Lucky that you're only 21 and figured it out now and not once you have kids with this slutbag. Find a girl with morals and values and don't look back.
Um, I'm older than 21. When I said 21, I meant the year 2021.
Sorry but regardless man that chick is not healthy for you. I know you love her and it's hard right now but she doesn't love you like you love her. Start hanging out with ya friends or something. Get a new hobby, anything to keep you busy and your mind off her. And when you do think of her think how she assaulted you because she fucked up. Happy birthday and 21 is off to a fresh start for you. Embrace it.
Ok, read the 1st half of the 1st paragraph. That sounds like a reasonable response.
Once you get on the train of learning about what's right, don't stop, that train goes right up to Creator.
God Bless You and All the Best to You.
You should have dumped her when you realized she as an alcoholic bitch who can’t stop herself from cock riding other dudes. You are better off without a liar and a cheater because they never ever ever change. Happy birthday brother and glad you grew some balls. Never be the pussy whipped cuckold, no One respects that. God bless
Just curious as to why you capitalized "cock".
Autocapitalize, I often hit return meaning to hit space. Fixed it
The only problem with what you said is that most "nice" women are only nice to you until they get you to sign your life away on that dotted line. After that, they're not that nice to you.
I see your point. How to analyze character.
I recommend handwriting analysis, and body language. A man who thoroughly understands both will be harder to fool.
When we buy a dog or horse, we examine its pedigree, its parents, its relationship with the other dogs or horses, its history.
Same thing here. If you look at the family that produced a woman, you will see what she is and will be later.
Sometimes it is good to observe people when they do not know they are being observed, if possible.
I have a therapist, but he's not really helping me with this. Most therapists are blue-pilled as fuck, too, especially where I live. He helps me with other things, and I have an extremely good rate, which is why I haven't dropped him.
Your last paragraph is why I always use a condom during sex no matter what she or any other woman says, and why I refused to have sex with her when she's not using any birth control (there's what? 11 different forms of birth control for women? she could of picked one).
She sounds like a narcissist. Work on yourself, find some hobbies, and focus on self-improvement.
I believe she's a narcissist along with many other mental issues. The fact that she tried to blame me for what happened last night and is trying to excuse herself of any blame proves more that she's likely a narcissist.
I was once a punching bag for nutty whores. No longer and happily married now.
Narcissists are pure evil. Run away.
Women shit test men 24/7. You have to pass those shit tests to gain and keep the respect you desire.
You might ask yourself: How do I pass shit tests? The answer is simple: don't ever put up with their shit. Does not apply to narcissists; nothing works for them.
Stay away from that crazy cunt. Things will pick up. They always do.
Unfortunately, her shit tests were "what can I do this time to get him to break up with me?" Well, this time she got me to break up with her.
You'll see that is not unfortunate, but rather , fortunate for you
If she has Narcissistic.Personality Disorder (NPD), as her outright lies and behavior suggest, then you are lucky to get out fairly unscathed.
I was in one such relationship years ago, and had no idea wtf had happened, but I felt incredibly inferior and lonely afterwards. Later I looked into NPD, and she met every criteria to a T.
Long story short: you will learn to recognize crazy eyes immediately, and you will know to avoid any woman who has that look. You will also learn to choose better women who aren't fucked in the head. You pick them, not the other way around. Sociopaths seek out their victims, so don't fall for their bullshit next time. You will recognize the game immediately -- they are all pretty much the same...just off or odd...not really caring or human.
Anyway, the sting will last a good while, but stay away. No Contact is your best friend.
No Contact.
Don't look back man. You are right to get free from that. Focus on you for a while. Pull yourself back together and don't feel sorry for yourself. Plenty of fish in the sea and you don't need to settle for something you don't want.
You’re better off without the alcoholic gf Pede. I know this all too well. Also, if you feel something is wrong, don’t justify it to make it right. You don’t have to rationalize why you would be hurt after your gf fucked another dude and continues to talk to him, all while she claims to love you. You’re better than this Pede. Don’t simp to chicks that walk all over you. Don’t simp at all. Keep your standards high and you’ll find the girl that’s worth it. Head up Pede, my bday was 1/6, and aside from the Capitol shenanigans, mine was shit as well. Btw, Happy Belated Birthday Pede.
Today's my birthday, so it's not belated.
Right on. Happy birthday 🎉🎈🎊🎂🎁
It wasn't..She has issues. You are better off with out her. Happy Birthday!
I'll take a wild guess that she's not the only person in your relationship who has an alcohol problem.
You're right, but not in the way you think. I do have a problem with alcohol. That's why I don't like to drink it, and avoid drinking it except for extremely special occasions.
Glad to know you recognize this. I'd suggest you steer clear of intimate relationships with people who use alcohol regularly. Alcohol-free living is best. President Trump does very nicely without it. You and your future significant other can too.
You Should have turned and ran the other way when you broke up the first time, She did this to you because In the past you let her walk all over you. She honestly believed you were a pussy, She could do what she wanted, even get fucked by some other dude and you'll still take her back. Don't turn back, Go your own way and find your own path, Be happy and confident in yourself, And stand up for your values, Be a man. Might be some harsh words, But that's what red pills are all about
Happy birthday
I used to have the same issue of temporary breakups man. In the future NEVER do that shit. If you break up a second times it's over. Understand? Mind games aren't fun for anyone, and if you're with someone long term its because you want something out of it. Do you really want that to be what you're known for?
I'm glad you're out of that mess. She's a thot and you were a beta. Never take their word for it. Second time and they're out.
Brush it off man. You'll be fine, there are better women out there. Happy birthday.
Do you wear you pants :
Low
To tight
501 perfect??
What state are you in? You should get together with fellow Patriots
Commiefornia.
I live in San Francisco... All I can hope for is a chick that's not a crazy leftist. My ex girlfriend, even though a normie with liberal views, wasn't a leftist or a feminist. She didn't even vote for Obama in 08 or 12, and voted Trump in 2016 (more so because she hated Hillary and not because she actually liked Trump).
Sorry!
Have you ever smelt fresh air?
I'm not sure. I'm not even allowed to have an Alexapure air purifier sent to me because of some retarded regulation.
That sucks but you are better off without her. If she really loved you, she would not have slept with that other guy. She wouldn't have drank around him. She wouldn't keep messaging him. She can't have her cake and eat it too. She knows you are good for her but for whatever reason she has sabotaged the relationship. She needs therapy. You need to move on and let her go. She will drag you down with her if you let her.
Happy birthday! And be glad this has happened so you can move on without any additional baggage. Maybe you’ll learn something from all this...
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Work on yourself and you'll attract a better woman
The marrying type.
That's the problem. I don't want to get married. So, why would I want to date a woman who is just going to end up nagging me to marry her while taking away valuable years of her life she could of spent finding a man who actually does want to get married? I guess I'm looking for that rare woman who wants a long term lasting relationship, but doesn't want to get the government involved (get married). I'm even hesitant to live with another woman because some states (I think California is included) will treat it like marriage. I also just want my own place.
You probably have a harder time finding a good quality woman who doesn't want the whole husband and kids thing...the career woman types can have a pretty screwed up view on the world and relationship dynamics (and a huge ego). The only girls I know who don't want a husband can't even keep (or even get) a boyfriend.
It's commendable you don't want to waste anyone's time though, you sound like a respectful guy. You just need a good woman. We aren't supposed to nag, we are supposed to be helpful and supportive. I know most of us arent and unfortunately I don't have a solution for that other than have faith.
I do agree marriage shouldn't be getting the government involved. In my opinion it's just getting God involved, nothing wrong with that. A biblical marriage is what most men dream of, but biblical marriages are presented as chaste and boring...
I can understand why you would be scared off from marriage and children... Divorce is ridiculous, and a real threat to everything you worked so hard for. And child support is somehow worse. For every case that is settled fairly there are 9 others that are skewed in favor of the woman. I get it. Some of us don't believe in divorce though. There isn't a reason to fight. Just keep putting in effort and things will turn around. Love is an action.
Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic....but its a shame the way they've screwed us all up and turned us against eachother.
Older woman. Have a friend who is 46 who doesn't want to get married and wants her house to herself but is looking for meaningful companionship.
In clown world she's a real winner.
Why they fuck did take you 6 years?
Most of it was pretty good, especially the first few years. She's actually a really good person when she's not drinking. Although, I'm not sure if she became this horrible person, and drinks to have an excuse for her bad behavior.
Though I dont know her, im going to have to call BS on her being a good person. Being in constant communication with that guy, lying to you about cutting communication with him... those surely happened while she was sober. What you've described of her sober behavior still reveals an absence of integrity. She lied to you about it constantly throughout your relationship and maintained the lie. I dont care what upside she has or what her other virtues are. No, she is not a good person. Good people don't do that to ANYONE, let alone someone they love.
Happy Birthday, mate, from your Aussie brother down under.
This year is going to be much better for you. You just got rid of a shitty girlfriend who was treating you like dirt. You no longer have to deal with the TDS of your family and you can now look for a job that is better than the one you had.
Sometimes you just need a little push to take the first step on a journey to awesomeness.
MAGA!!
And how can a women assault a man, you seriously didn't smack the bitch up? Getting abused by a women because you are to afraid to hit a women is sexist. Punch women for the same reason you punch men. It's called equality.
No one should be hitting anyone.
You just reminded me of The Source of All Evil, had agreed to give more distance so she could get her grades up going into Winter/Spring semester of college '05, fully dumped about a week before Singles Awareness Day that same year, found out that she'd started seeing a guy in one of her classes first day of that semester about a month and a half later because she had gotten him a job at a place where I used to hang out and was buddies with one of the managers. Same guy that she claimed as "just a friend" before and after the breakup. We had also previously set up plans to do something later that year, and when she tried to confirm it in May, she...did not like my response of "why in the nine Hells would I want to do that with YOU?".
Simply put, the only thing you're guilty of is not permanently dumping her ass earlier. Now, take the time you need to get your head right, get back on your feet, and find a good MAGA Ladypede, as rare as they may be.
The Fools - What I'd Do For You
I tried but failed to find it online, but it is a great song that suits your situation.
I have the live version in my library,
First off happy birthday.
Second if you guys are constantly breaking up then she is not right for you. She had him on the back burner and if you stayed together he will always be there waiting. She would look for reasons to fight to break up and fuck him. All the while she is just a side piece while he is fucking other chicks. Your litterly double dipping your dick in a chick who just got nutted in by another guy and it sounds like she is going to keep doing it.
I'll make it simple, your relationship is unhealthy to begin with. With her alcohol abuse and your tolerance to be abused. It was never going to end well to begin with. I say this from one american to another who actually cares about you.
She laid hands on you, if you stay with her you will end up shoving her. The neck day the cops will be at your door to arrest you. Get out now and fuck anyone who tells you anything else.
Lastly the antiquated notion that family is who you are born from is outdated. Family is the people who support and want what is best for you. You get to choose your own family.
From one birthday boy to another.
Thank god no kids no marriage. This is an easy bridge to burn. Set it ablaze fren. Then get out of dodge...
Seriously, sounds like you could benefit from a relocation.
Oh yeah, happy birthday! Just had mine as well
I never wanted marriage or kids or to move in together from the start. I was sure to let her know this from day one, but she still decided to stay with me. It was nothing personal towards her (I love her); I just didn't want any of those things in general.
Why are you even fucking around with women. you should be cleaning your guns and preparing for war. Women are distractions get rid of them.
Honestly. Trump is teaching you you how to win. Stay far away from her.
Ps Happy Birthday pede!
Take this chance to join a boxing gym and get some confidence in yourself
You were right to break up with her. You deserve better than that.
Expect more for yourself then you'll get it.
Is this an allegory for what the RNC is doing to Trump supporters right now?
Thanks everyone.