That's actually pretty normal shit. Like, finding my wife's hair in a bowl of Pho that she just made from scratch is not emasculating at all, it's just a fact of life. I bitch about it and move on.
Cleaning her hair out've the shower because 'honey it's too gross when it's wet, you don't throw up like I would - can you clean it?' Is real shit. Typical marriage crap (or relationship after 5 years). I do it once, then force her to do it - cycle goes on.
My wife destroying the kitchen after a single meal? Normal - but she cleans it up because I'm the one buying her thousands of dollars worth of coffee mixers and makers n crap, blenders, kitchenaids and all kinds of other shit so, she knows.
Knowing when to say sorry is important, too - not because you need to actually be sorry, but because you're the man - you've gotta be the bigger person sometimes and just say sorry so she can even move on to actually discussing an issue fairly - women can be overly emotional creatures and it's up to us guys to be the rational ones and lead by example.
Being a man means bearing the load. It means having an iron stomach, trying to be a bread winner, owning up to mistakes even if they're not your own so that others can move on, and tolerance for a bit of slobbyness here and then. It means being decisive, having patience and having a firm control of your temper because hot damn, most women don't lol.
I mean I literally just bought my wife a 2500$ Nordic Trak and so the idea of 'you gunna' use that thing or use it a back rest?' Is real - but it's not emasculating - it's me coaching her. Aaaaaand some times reminding her that I just invested 2500 bucks into her health so I have an expectation of her (I will literally tell her on days she thinks of skipping to 'get your ass on that 2500 machine and use it, woman' and I push her. That's what good couples do. They coach each other)
The only reason this would be seen as emasculating is if you yourself are a bit unconfident in your own masculinity.
Let me tell you, brother. There's nothing more masculine than as a man, recieving a live birth of your daughter and getting your arms bloody and messy as you personally recieve the kid from the womb (we did natural birth). Being the one to cut the cord, to get the child's first breath, to be the first person she sees - I recieved my child, with my bare hands. My product, my domain, my future. I'm in control (or try to be)
Yeah, plenty of icky 'gina crap but eh... we are men. We get dirty and move on.
Some one's got to.
I do think the art work is a bit ... lol... why do I feel the need to think the artist is only 150lbs and a stick? XD they're probably not but still, the artwork itself is kind'a meh.
But anyways just saying - if you've been with some one for at least 15 years - most of this is actually rather relatable.
That's actually pretty normal shit. Like, finding my wife's hair in a bowl of Pho that she just made from scratch is not emasculating at all, it's just a fact of life. I bitch about it and move on.
Cleaning her hair out've the shower because 'honey it's too gross when it's wet, you don't throw up like I would - can you clean it?' Is real shit. Typical marriage crap (or relationship after 5 years). I do it once, then force her to do it - cycle goes on.
My wife destroying the kitchen after a single meal? Normal - but she cleans it up because I'm the one buying her thousands of dollars worth of coffee mixers and makers n crap, blenders, kitchenaids and all kinds of other shit so, she knows.
Knowing when to say sorry is important, too - not because you need to actually be sorry, but because you're the man - you've gotta be the bigger person sometimes and just say sorry so she can even move on to actually discussing an issue fairly - women can be overly emotional creatures and it's up to us guys to be the rational ones and lead by example.
Being a man means bearing the load. It means having an iron stomach, trying to be a bread winner, owning up to mistakes even if they're not your own so that others can move on, and tolerance for a bit of slobbyness here and then. It means being decisive, having patience and having a firm control of your temper because hot damn, most women don't lol.
I mean I literally just bought my wife a 2500$ Nordic Trak and so the idea of 'you gunna' use that thing or use it a back rest?' Is real - but it's not emasculating - it's me coaching her. Aaaaaand some times reminding her that I just invested 2500 bucks into her health so I have an expectation of her (I will literally tell her on days she thinks of skipping to 'get your ass on that 2500 machine and use it, woman' and I push her. That's what good couples do. They coach each other)
The only reason this would be seen as emasculating is if you yourself are a bit unconfident in your own masculinity.
Let me tell you, brother. There's nothing more masculine than as a man, recieving a live birth of your daughter and getting your arms bloody and messy as you personally recieve the kid from the womb (we did natural birth). Being the one to cut the cord, to get the child's first breath, to be the first person she sees - I recieved my child, with my bare hands. My product, my domain, my future. I'm in control (or try to be)
Yeah, plenty of icky 'gina crap but eh... we are men. We get dirty and move on.
Some one's got to.
I do think the art work is a bit ... lol... why do I feel the need to think the artist is only 150lbs and a stick? XD they're probably not but still, the artwork itself is kind'a meh.
But anyways just saying - if you've been with some one for at least 15 years - most of this is actually rather relatable.