I quit OKCupid today...and I couldn't resist leaving them a personal note as to why.
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Where'd you find her?
I made friends all over the world as a result of both my upbringing and college, which put me in a lot of different circles of people and allowed me to have objective clarity about how ass backwards the progressive utopia i came from was at an early age. This set the stage for me to meet a lot of women from other cultures with totally different demands and masculinity definitions. Some of them were good, some bad, some were good but a bad match.
I eventually found her through random chance on Facebook via some common thing we both commented on. One random friend request and a couple years of life events later, and now we're knocking out financial milestones together and planning our next trip.
It really helps to understand and build yourself up first and build your confidence and self control.
That's really cool. I appreciate you for sharing that. Gives me hope.
I should note that it's doubly depressing that I have a very nice (and challenging) job, no debt, am fiscally sound, and generally have my shit together, and yet it's still so hard to find a compatible woman that has the same values.
I got into Dave Ramsey and a few others early, and have been working in challenging technical jobs since I could drive, paid my way through a local college. I'm right there with you on that! SE Asia has lots of people that get the money thing, but you can find trash or gold in any culture, so, don't expect a culture to make up the difference for a woman who's just an intrinsically bad person.
This should be obvious, but it's crucial both people think the other is hot.
Aside from financial maturity, what are you looking for?
A woman with conservative family values, takes care of her body and mind (and yes that means being in shape and doing outdoor activities), isn't politically correct and has a good sense of humor. She also has to be ok with the fact that I'm agnostic. Also, she has to be okay with me enjoying my own space sometimes too (like being able to hang out with my friends on occasion), so not too clingy.
Might as well be asking to find the Holy Grail though.