This is literally what he sent me:
You're offspring will reap the demise off your ignorance, be it slavery or another form of retribution. You're unwillingness to acknowledge injustice will bring the wrath of vengeful and irrational beings, seeking reparations in blood. I sought to enlighten you to a reality you were not privy to through the stories of people who lived those hardships. Those "criminals", as you call them, will come to eternally rob you and your next of kin of light... I wish the best for you.
Really fucked up stuff, this was a good friend of mine. What happened to people?
And for this reason all I had to write in my dating profile was "Christian conservative" and my match quality went WAY up.
Quit dating anyhow though. Dating in your 30's sucks.
Edit: for clarity, I'm a woman.
Single 30s here... Found too many women came across as desperate for a bread winner to raise their baby daddy's children.
I get it, it sucks to be a single mom, but from the perspective of a man, they're a liability, because a single mom will always have that bond between her and her children that stepdad won't, and they will always matter to her more than you.
Yep, goes both ways too. Anytime I hear "my son/daughter will always come before you and if that's a problem swipe left" I nope out. It's not that I don't think the kids a top priority, it's that they're already describing a broken family structure.
Unfortunately, I was in a 7 year relationship where I loved the woman and she loved me, for a time. I know what that feeling is like. I almost envy all the young kids growing up today that have never felt the emotion of love before, despite being well into their 20s. I think maybe if I didn't know what I was missing I could do without it.
I can quit dating but then what? Go to the gym, play video games, work more to earn more money to... go to the gym, play videos games? Maybe travel to another country and pretend how much better it'd be to live there even though it's mostly the same? I dunno, I want love and companionship so I'll keep trying despite how dismal it is and the fact I'll likely fail.
Yeah, I totally feel what you're saying. Even if we fail again and again, what's the point of living if we arnt trying? I guess because most of my satisfaction in life comes from building my own dreams and pursuing my own interests, I don't feel much loss. Dating has been more negative than positive, so quitting improved my overall situation ... But also there's less reward, isn't there? You've got a point. I need to process this more.
I think a lot of the talk of "pursuing my own interests" and "building things" is a distraction from what truly matters in life. To me what matters is love and family; community. People that overly focus on building/improving things IMO are sometimes just distracting themselves from the unfortunate reality of their life which is missing this love, family, companionship and community. People too overly focused on going their own way and doing things for themselves in my opinion are often just studying for an exam they never take, that exam being love, family, community and building strong emotional bonds with others.
That's how I think and feel anyway. I've mostly done everything I want and accomplished most things. There's very little I can do to improve my life. I mean, I make 6 figures at a job I work about 3 hours a day at... I'm fit, in good shape, eat healthy, own a place, have done lots of traveling, I've read more books last year than most people have their life, I have a masters degree and post graduate certifications, I've learned how to program even though it isn't my field... Most things feel like a distraction rather than actually something that adds value. To me the real value in life is the emotional connections one forms with others and the most important one of all is between husband and wife and the children she provides.