If your wife agrees to say the traditional wedding vows of: "Will you obey him, and serve him, love, honor, and keep him in sickness and in health? And forsaking all others keep yourself only to him, so long as you both shall live?"
If your fiancee agrees to these wedding vows, your marriage will last. If she doesn't agree to those vows, your wedding won't last. It's simple stuff.
Based on what lol? I think the whole "obey and serve him" part makes some people uncomfortable because it suggests an uneven power dynamic. To each their own though.
There is no such thing as an "even" power dynamic in a marriage. There needs to be a head of household and it generally has to be a man. People don't like that today cause females have been taught an assertive, strong man is a bad thing and equate it to "violent misogynist".
The "sitcom" man is what society tries to push. Fat, lazy, stupid and scheming all the time cause his "wife" who really acts like his mother wants to ruin his fun.
It's one thing to have a head of the household or guy who works and woman who stays home and raises kids but personally I'd hate to have my girlfriend, in front of a bunch of people and a priest, promise to serve and obey me. I want a partnership, not a slave. If you want total obediance you can get a dog.
That's your interpretation. That's not where the origins come from. Obeying the husband means to trust in his decisions and respect his position as head of household. It doesn't mean to slave and be obedient like a dog lmao.
Don't worry about owning a dog. Men like you generally turn into one within a few years of a serious relationship as your woman takes control.
If it's not meant to be interpreted literally then why even say it? Either you and your wife love each other and share the same values or you don't. If a public promise is required to trust your wife then the relationship was fucked to begin with. "Obeying the husband means to trust in his decisions" - That goes both ways. Aren't you going to trust in your wifes decisions?