This has been brewing for a while but the political stuff was the nail in the coffin for our relationship. It hurts to say it. I love the guy. But I can't be with someone who has zero fight in them and zero patriotism. I mean with as patriotic as I am now I can't believe it lasted this long. Can't wait to get out there and date REAL manly men lol.
Sorry for this post. I'm just a little sad and needed to vent.
Someone doesn't know that divorce shouldn't even be an option and they are living in an artificial construct that is easily ignored by being principled and surrounding yourself with other principled people.
EDIT:
The destruction of the family is Satan's goal. It's the Communist's goal.
-Matthew 19:6
For everyone who would mock religion or God, this is the fruit.
Yeah, my ex-wife said the exact same thing before she took half my stuff and utterly destroyed my life, but okay.
Sad I only have one upvote to give you.
hear hear
Willing to marry, please send picture of boat
you are the leader of the home. if it fails, the blame is solely on you. if you picked the wrong woman, its on you. if you let the relationship rot, its on YOU.
Sack up and take the responsibility and stop blaming women you puny faggots.
Marriage is a religious ceremony and the government should just stay out of it.
Why we still force a default binding contract is beyond me. Outdated and unneeded. We should empower women and break the chains of this contract enforced by the evil patriarchy.
Fucking finally some good common sense!
The government wasn’t in your baptism, and it wasn’t in my bar mitzvah. It shouldn’t be in our marriages.
Comes down to money
The marriage license allows you to take tax credits together, see each other in the hospital and make medical decisions for your spouse if God-forbid someone get hurt, it allows you to inherit life insurance if God-forbid your spouse passes.
I'm sure this list can be extended but you get the point. There are legal benefits just as there are drawbacks. It's a partnership and both ppl have to be aligned in many ways for marriage to make sense.
So many ppl date like idiots and marry someone because they are attracted physically or get fuzzy feelings around that person or have been with them a long time and are scared of change, or because they feel pressured from parents or friends etc.. Those are all terrible reasons to get married. HOWEVER if both ppl understand marriage is a life-long partnership, both people align morally and political worldviews align, and they are planning to raise God-fearing kids into the world then marriage can be a significant asset to both individuals.
Because it’s in most cases a massive financial lift to be two people earning together. If you have a good spouse you can be very successful.
That's a huge "if". Plenty of "good spouses" turn out to be not so.
And who says two people can't earn together outside marriage?
Holy Matrimony is a religious ceremony. Marriage is just a joining of two things. Not saying I disagree with the sentiment, but facts are facts. Religious bindings before God had gone out the window long ago. People married before God, yet FOR entitlement and country alliances. Royal arranged marriages for instance. It's a losing battle if you don't have moral servitude towards God.
Because children's rights need to be secured. Empowering women or men at the expensive of security for children is bad for society.
Then agree who gets custody and how much is paid out before you get married. All of this should be settled up front.
No, it's way more than a ceremony, religious or secular. It is the fundamental social unit which see s the birth and reading of kids. The state has of course screwed things up, but the future of the nation requires men and women bonding and that involves way more than one afternoon at city hall or a beach or church. And yes, nowadays it has to deal with property and progeny if the marriage fails.
I appreciate it man
Same
How did she live her life before she said those things? What was her family like? What were her friends like?
Absolutely!! Every guy thinking about getting married needs to get acquainted with Divorce, Inc before they throw themselves into the trap.
How does one protect themselves from this pre-marriage (other than never getting married)?
Fwiw, I've got some experience and background knowledge with all of this, just from my parents' divorce when I was around 14, and my uncle having once being a family court judge. I know both ends (an "easy," divorce and a hard divorce, from both of these examples). My parents were as easy and cordial as it got. Still burnt my dad financially, since my mom was a housewife. So she got to stay in the house, he moved to a tiny apartment. She owns half the house now, etc. But everything was split pretty fairly, all agreed upon by my parents beforehand, no custody battles over the kids (just me really since my brother was already 18), it was over really quick, and my parents, almost 20 years later, are still friends.
My fiancee's parents was kind of the opposite from what she's told me and pretty rough on her and her siblings. Still, I think both of our experiences made us both a lot more careful, and changed our attitudes about marriage. I think we're less likely to get divorced because of that, but that doesn't mean we're immune... things change. But we've also taken things slow, been together 7 years or so now, engaged for over 2, etc, so we both feel pretty comfortable with our decision to get married... but... yea, the thought of divorce still terrifies me. Even with us both making exactly the same amount riight now, I know that I'd still be the one to get shafted if it were ever to come to divorce. Not sure why we ever had to bring the government into marriage, makes no fucking sense.
Yeah, buddy, thought I married a Christian conservative chick only to find out she was not who I thought she was, cheated, took thousands of dollars from me, and I only get to see my kids half the time now. Don’t criticize a guy for not wanting to sign up to be screwed over by a woman and the courts.
I'm sorry to hear that man. Sucks when kids are in the mix, and courts always side with the mother. Talk about sexism!
Did you have sex before marriage?
I didnt have sex after marriage, so there's always that to contend with.
Medical issue, I'm not happy with it, but happy with her. 10 years now
I think this is one of the biggest issues we have to fix as men for the next generation.
BASED!
More people know your right. I'm glad you ssid this