This has been brewing for a while but the political stuff was the nail in the coffin for our relationship. It hurts to say it. I love the guy. But I can't be with someone who has zero fight in them and zero patriotism. I mean with as patriotic as I am now I can't believe it lasted this long. Can't wait to get out there and date REAL manly men lol.
Sorry for this post. I'm just a little sad and needed to vent.
Yeah, my ex-wife said the exact same thing before she took half my stuff and utterly destroyed my life, but okay.
Sad I only have one upvote to give you.
hear hear
Willing to marry, please send picture of boat
Now that's funny....
Willing to marry -- please send pic of your aircraft and hanger home.
I favor Beech Baron and Florida, BTW.
you are the leader of the home. if it fails, the blame is solely on you. if you picked the wrong woman, its on you. if you let the relationship rot, its on YOU.
Sack up and take the responsibility and stop blaming women you puny faggots.
LoL, I bet you're a gem. Do tell us your marital status and BMI.
Thanks,
Amen
Gotta love boomers are their retarded "back in my day..." advice about jobs, finance, and romance. The world has changed for the worse simp, you have no idea how unbelievably terrible women have become, and yes that even includes the conservative ones.
Dooted you back to zero my fren. Your words, are truth!
Marriage is a religious ceremony and the government should just stay out of it.
Why we still force a default binding contract is beyond me. Outdated and unneeded. We should empower women and break the chains of this contract enforced by the evil patriarchy.
Fucking finally some good common sense!
The government wasn’t in your baptism, and it wasn’t in my bar mitzvah. It shouldn’t be in our marriages.
Comes down to money
Yep, the government doesn't want to support these women if they don't have to. Men get tasked with it. If the woman is the breadwinner and a female judge or any judge comes up they never give the money to the other direction. It's a shit deal and so is our elections.
The marriage license allows you to take tax credits together, see each other in the hospital and make medical decisions for your spouse if God-forbid someone get hurt, it allows you to inherit life insurance if God-forbid your spouse passes.
I'm sure this list can be extended but you get the point. There are legal benefits just as there are drawbacks. It's a partnership and both ppl have to be aligned in many ways for marriage to make sense.
So many ppl date like idiots and marry someone because they are attracted physically or get fuzzy feelings around that person or have been with them a long time and are scared of change, or because they feel pressured from parents or friends etc.. Those are all terrible reasons to get married. HOWEVER if both ppl understand marriage is a life-long partnership, both people align morally and political worldviews align, and they are planning to raise God-fearing kids into the world then marriage can be a significant asset to both individuals.
As backwards as it is portrayed, arranged marriages kinda make sense, because the parents are able to think rationally while the people in a relationship are often irrational. This all assumes the arranger has the arrangees best interest at heart.
Sorry bro but being more religious isn’t gonna make your woman fall in love with you, it just doesn’t work that way. You could be a prophet of God and women will still spit on you. Fact is, attraction is needed in order to make a relationship work, and just cuz you pray to God everyday doesn’t mean women are gonna wanna have sex with you. If anything, being a lowdown degenerate scum does lol.
Also, there are WAYYYYY more drawbacks to getting legally married than not. It’s not even remotely close. There are stories of world champion boxers are fighters who have to give their Champion Title belt to a woman because of divorce. You’re out of touch with reality if you think these gynocentric laws in this bullshit gynocentric society has any benefit to men in the modern era. Civilization is on the downturn and humanity is headed towards extinction because of it. Enjoy the decline.
Because it’s in most cases a massive financial lift to be two people earning together. If you have a good spouse you can be very successful.
That's a huge "if". Plenty of "good spouses" turn out to be not so.
And who says two people can't earn together outside marriage?
And they should live separate lives and not shank up either.
Holy Matrimony is a religious ceremony. Marriage is just a joining of two things. Not saying I disagree with the sentiment, but facts are facts. Religious bindings before God had gone out the window long ago. People married before God, yet FOR entitlement and country alliances. Royal arranged marriages for instance. It's a losing battle if you don't have moral servitude towards God.
Because children's rights need to be secured. Empowering women or men at the expensive of security for children is bad for society.
Then agree who gets custody and how much is paid out before you get married. All of this should be settled up front.
You can agree all you want, the court can throw it out on a whim. Prenuptial agreements are rarely enforced, and have strict limitations in what they can cover (e.g. they can't apply to assets obtained during the marriage, only before it).
Circumstances change. Your wife becomes an alcoholic, but is making money off Only Fans. Your husband becomes medically disabled but is ok with the kids for short visits.
No, it's way more than a ceremony, religious or secular. It is the fundamental social unit which see s the birth and reading of kids. The state has of course screwed things up, but the future of the nation requires men and women bonding and that involves way more than one afternoon at city hall or a beach or church. And yes, nowadays it has to deal with property and progeny if the marriage fails.
I appreciate it man
Same
How did she live her life before she said those things? What was her family like? What were her friends like?
Absolutely!! Every guy thinking about getting married needs to get acquainted with Divorce, Inc before they throw themselves into the trap.
How does one protect themselves from this pre-marriage (other than never getting married)?
Fwiw, I've got some experience and background knowledge with all of this, just from my parents' divorce when I was around 14, and my uncle having once being a family court judge. I know both ends (an "easy," divorce and a hard divorce, from both of these examples). My parents were as easy and cordial as it got. Still burnt my dad financially, since my mom was a housewife. So she got to stay in the house, he moved to a tiny apartment. She owns half the house now, etc. But everything was split pretty fairly, all agreed upon by my parents beforehand, no custody battles over the kids (just me really since my brother was already 18), it was over really quick, and my parents, almost 20 years later, are still friends.
My fiancee's parents was kind of the opposite from what she's told me and pretty rough on her and her siblings. Still, I think both of our experiences made us both a lot more careful, and changed our attitudes about marriage. I think we're less likely to get divorced because of that, but that doesn't mean we're immune... things change. But we've also taken things slow, been together 7 years or so now, engaged for over 2, etc, so we both feel pretty comfortable with our decision to get married... but... yea, the thought of divorce still terrifies me. Even with us both making exactly the same amount riight now, I know that I'd still be the one to get shafted if it were ever to come to divorce. Not sure why we ever had to bring the government into marriage, makes no fucking sense.
You can't, even prenuptial agreements rarely protect you, and are subject to strict limitations. The only way to win is to not play.
Your parents' friendly divorce is a rare unicorn these days. Child support is tied to visitation and custody and that's become a sick game in the modern era. The less time Dad has with his kids, the more money Mom gets to spend partying with her new boyfriends. And to make sure Dad gets less time, family law - in many states - allows domestic violence restraining orders to be granted FOR NOTHING ("he yelled at me!") and then the DVRO is "evidence" to strip Dad of all rights except one - the right to pay and pay and pay. BTW, you should look up the divorce rates of children of divorced parents. You won't like the data unfortunately, but better to know upfront before you pull the trigger to the gun you're pointing at your head. But to be fair, some couples beat the odds and maybe you'll get lucky.
When mom and dad split up it's the kids who usually suffer most. And while we like to pretend it's so unfair to men, if not for disincentives to divorce we might have even more irresponsibility and the state providing a shifty substitute for a dad still at least kicking in for his own kids. Look at Steve Jobs slandering the mother of his first child and refusing support and involvement, took court ordered paternity test to start to get that guy to step up.
And in most cases the kids don't want to be put in the spot of picking a parent so we flawed as family court is it does at least provide some structure. And in general women are more nurturing and patient with daily childcare duties.