FWIW I am a man with wife, children, home in the suburbs, etc. I can tell you that it was an iterative process to get from not having that.
At 29, I took a hard look at my life and realized I had been living for the wrong things. I was a pothead, a drunk, and my focus was on the things I did for fun and I put no real energy into what I did for a living, because I viewed it as just my “day job”. I’d been coasting along, getting by but never making any real progress and the people I surrounded myself with were exactly the same. Then my 29th birthday landed on me like a ton of bricks and I started to look around me, outside my little bubble and saw people my age that were moving ahead in life instead of procrastinating endlessly. I’d made mistakes, studied a nonsense degree, gotten myself addicted to pot and fallen into this little cycle where I kept telling myself it was alright because I was “young” and I’d get it together someday.
I quit the drugs, took stock of my life and started working toward a real goal. I got a masters in something useful and restarted a career path at 31 (which was humiliating at first) and slowly pulled myself up, got married, went from cruddy job to slightly less cruddy job and on and on. We scrimped and worked too many hours and gave up a lot of fun times. By the time I was 40 I was ready to buy a home and had a family and a good career.
Just thought I’d share how I turned things around for myself when I felt like you do now.
My story is a lot like yours. By the grace of God I was able to quit drinking, change my mindset and the trajectory of my life, and now I have what I've always wanted. Now, my dream is that this will still be an attainable dream in America for my 8-month-old son.
FWIW I am a man with wife, children, home in the suburbs, etc. I can tell you that it was an iterative process to get from not having that.
At 29, I took a hard look at my life and realized I had been living for the wrong things. I was a pothead, a drunk, and my focus was on the things I did for fun and I put no real energy into what I did for a living, because I viewed it as just my “day job”. I’d been coasting along, getting by but never making any real progress and the people I surrounded myself with were exactly the same. Then my 29th birthday landed on me like a ton of bricks and I started to look around me, outside my little bubble and saw people my age that were moving ahead in life instead of procrastinating endlessly. I’d made mistakes, studied a nonsense degree, gotten myself addicted to pot and fallen into this little cycle where I kept telling myself it was alright because I was “young” and I’d get it together someday.
I quit the drugs, took stock of my life and started working toward a real goal. I got a masters in something useful and restarted a career path at 31 (which was humiliating at first) and slowly pulled myself up, got married, went from cruddy job to slightly less cruddy job and on and on. We scrimped and worked too many hours and gave up a lot of fun times. By the time I was 40 I was ready to buy a home and had a family and a good career.
Just thought I’d share how I turned things around for myself when I felt like you do now.
My story is a lot like yours. By the grace of God I was able to quit drinking, change my mindset and the trajectory of my life, and now I have what I've always wanted. Now, my dream is that this will still be an attainable dream in America for my 8-month-old son.