Got myself extremely hyped up to go on a date with a girl I met who was exactly my type (yes she supports Trump) and seemingly out of my league. Everything seemed to be going very well, she was texting me constantly and trying to make plans with me after I first asked if she wanted to go out.
Then we went on what I thought was a “date” but perhaps wasn’t. After we were done eating she said she was going home about 10 min later.
I don’t know what went wrong and I guess it doesn’t really matter now. But I really feel like shit and idk what to do. My job makes me stressed and sometimes I think about destroying my career rather than showing up for work on Monday. The election has been destroying my positive mindset in every way imaginable. I was so happy when I thought I might be building a relationship with a girl who I felt was a perfect fit for me and thought things might be turning around. Now I feel much worse than before I met her... even feeling worse than when Trump lost the election.
I know this is a bit pathetic but I really don’t know what else to do but ask for advice here. I appreciate any advice you can give me for dealing with this situation. PS no Hillary, I am not suicidal.
As another Trump supporting lady, I say this, just call her and leave a message asking if everything is okay and that if something went wrong, you are totally willing to listen to what she has to say. Also send her a text letting her know you really like her and you're hoping that she feels comfortable talking to you and letting you know if she felt bad at anything you said or did.
It REALLY sucks when someone abruptly leaves and doesn't explain and seemingly abandons you.
But...just keep in mind, as someone who's been looking high and low desperately for conservative guys and seemingly found a nice one or two only to get mysteriously ghosted out of the blue when things seemed to be 'fine', none of the political stuff matters if they're shitty at communicating and profoundly inconsiderate.
Unless you grabbed her and groped her or said something explicitly racist or ya know...any such total violation of social conventions/cruelty etc., the other person ought to tell you what's wrong.
Yuck... that's needy beta shit. That's what soyboys do. It never works, but they keep doing it thinking, "She'll see how beautiful I am inside and we'll be star-crossed lovers after she's done banging that jerkass alpha,,, she's just going through a phase, but we're meant for each other."
NOOOO. Put the ball in her court. Make her feel guilty. This guy wants a reason for why it all went to shit. He needs to know. And that's perfectly normal. He wants closure and answers. That's all. This is a way to get answers from her and refuse to submit to HER nasty game of ghosting and abandoning.
He should NOT wait for her AT ALL. Get aggressive but in a polite way to make her reply. Then move on.
SHE is the alpha now. Don't you see?
SHE is the alpha by dumping him mysteriously and leaving him puzzled and bewildered.
He's got to get politely aggressive and let her know 'gently' and politely that she needs to step up and be an adult and speak up and say goodbye like a grown woman.
It went to shit because she already knew she could have him. No challenge. That immediately makes them think, "This guy has nothing going on and probably wants a commitment and he doesn't even know me. I am insecure garbage... he must be desperate."
Who cares? SHE needs to be the one to have to say it! Why should HE be the one to speculate and come up with theories??
What you're saying is ALL theory! Make HER say what's up. Put her in that position. Let her feel uncomfortable. Make HER say it. You're falling into her shit trap by playing HER dumbass game of formulating theories to cope with the mystery.
If you think you're a 5/6, then improve your physique.
So .. lemme ask you this. Had/has she ever seen a pic of you before this date? Anything for her to get an indication of your appearance before you both went out tonight? You're saying she and you met at a party, right? So she knew what you looked like?
And she asked you to go on this hypothetical road trip AFTER she saw you, right?
Also, did she mention any others for this road trip, or was it like "you and me should do this thing"?
Also ... what exactly happened at the end when you say "she left"? What happened that was so bad? What about her "leaving" made you think it's all over and she's lost interest?
Who asked whom out? Was this a dinner invitation? Was this a night thing?
Why were you expecting to spend multiple hours with her?
You live a few hours away. Many women would consider this a deal breaker. I would. She may have not had intentions beyond fun/friends bec of this. And when she saw you puppy doggy over her she clammed up and ran away. She wanted to go on a road trip right away indicates friends. Or a sort of reckless free spirit who doesn’t think much. Or someone immature who is a lot of talk and doesn’t intend to follow thru. She could’ve had a stomach ache on the date. But if a lot of time has elapsed with no contact I would say she was trying to disappear. I wouldn’t do anything unless you think she’s a real gem then you could always just send a pic from a road trip (without her) and see if she responds. If she says damn you didn’t take me with then you can go from there. But I’d let her carry the convo other than some small bait to test the waters.
Did you get dinner? What were you guys talking about for the 5 minutes before she bailed?