Got myself extremely hyped up to go on a date with a girl I met who was exactly my type (yes she supports Trump) and seemingly out of my league. Everything seemed to be going very well, she was texting me constantly and trying to make plans with me after I first asked if she wanted to go out.
Then we went on what I thought was a “date” but perhaps wasn’t. After we were done eating she said she was going home about 10 min later.
I don’t know what went wrong and I guess it doesn’t really matter now. But I really feel like shit and idk what to do. My job makes me stressed and sometimes I think about destroying my career rather than showing up for work on Monday. The election has been destroying my positive mindset in every way imaginable. I was so happy when I thought I might be building a relationship with a girl who I felt was a perfect fit for me and thought things might be turning around. Now I feel much worse than before I met her... even feeling worse than when Trump lost the election.
I know this is a bit pathetic but I really don’t know what else to do but ask for advice here. I appreciate any advice you can give me for dealing with this situation. PS no Hillary, I am not suicidal.
Dafuq, who told you that was "cringe"? Nothing cringe-worthy about that at all. Man, who got in your head? This is sad. You do something perfectly normal and nice, and you've been conditioned to feel like you fucked up.
Secondly, so what if she didn't consider it a date and realized that you did? What's so creepy about that? Misunderstandings happen. It's really not a big deal. She can just feel flattered and laugh it off. And she can certainly woman up and clarify that she just wanted to hang out as friends - if that's the case. You don't need to make excuses for her.
You really need to develop the confidence and assertiveness to be direct and ask for clarification when a woman leaves you feeling bewildered.
You should not be in the position of speculating and wondering, and you should ask the source of all the confusion directly to clear things up.
You really need to feel more comfortable being direct and honest with a woman when she leaves you feeling confused.
But how do you know you blew it??
Look...I'll tell you this. IF you did actually really genuinely do something that was 'bad', well, if she tells you what went wrong, you can apologize for it. You can let her know that you acknowledge making a mistake. You could easily get a second chance.
How do you know that your mistake was that you got too excited?? Did you grab her? Touch her? Did you get manic and talk a lot and loudly and not stop talking? Like, what's the evidence that that was the mistake you made?
And finally, just cuz someone looks great, that does NOT make them desirable for a long term relationship. There's not even any guarantee that a hot person is actually that good even in the sack.
You're really viewing yourself as an undesirable person. You gotta get away from your asshole friends and family, man. This is not good for you. It's great to have a hot gf/bf but you gotta be around people who don't treat you like you're some gross uggo.
I don't think this opportunity is anywhere nearly as golden as you think. There's NOTHING so far that you have stated about this woman that indicates anything superior about this woman besides her appearance - which again can be highly subjective.
What's ironic is that all the idiot, stupid men here who are claiming to support you are actually reinforcing your false belief that you did something wrong and that you're inherently inferior to her because of your appearance or your behavior.
Even as they claim to be 'alphas', their fundamental premise is that this woman is a prize and that you're not.
What actually makes her such a prize beyond her appearance and her initial desperation and over-eagerness to 'hang out' with you?
Have you EVER asked yourself that?
Why not?
I mean, Jesus Christ guy ... Do you GENUINELY believe SHE did NOTHING WRONG?