Got myself extremely hyped up to go on a date with a girl I met who was exactly my type (yes she supports Trump) and seemingly out of my league. Everything seemed to be going very well, she was texting me constantly and trying to make plans with me after I first asked if she wanted to go out.
Then we went on what I thought was a “date” but perhaps wasn’t. After we were done eating she said she was going home about 10 min later.
I don’t know what went wrong and I guess it doesn’t really matter now. But I really feel like shit and idk what to do. My job makes me stressed and sometimes I think about destroying my career rather than showing up for work on Monday. The election has been destroying my positive mindset in every way imaginable. I was so happy when I thought I might be building a relationship with a girl who I felt was a perfect fit for me and thought things might be turning around. Now I feel much worse than before I met her... even feeling worse than when Trump lost the election.
I know this is a bit pathetic but I really don’t know what else to do but ask for advice here. I appreciate any advice you can give me for dealing with this situation. PS no Hillary, I am not suicidal.
My daughter is a beautiful 30-year old. She was in a serious relationship that broke up several years ago, and since then has talked with many men on dating sites, and gone on many dates. She's approaching it seriously because she wants to find someone compatible to lead into marriage.
I have heard lots of her reactions to different men. She may not be representative of many young women, but for what it's worth, after many dates with different men, she's developed greater clarity about things that men do and say that are clues of problems.
-She wants him to look after her to a degree. Make sure she's comfortable, see if she'd like something more to eat/drink, etc.
-He should be a little bit flirty, more if they've been texting for a while and have gotten more familiar, but he shouldn't express real strong attraction to her for a while. She wants to build a relationship, enjoy talking and getting to find out about each other with some flirting.
If you felt like you and your "date" really could hit it off, then I think you should text her tomorrow afternoon or evening and tell her you would like to have a second date with her; would she like to go out again. If you haven't communicated tonight, you should text her in the morning to tell her you enjoyed getting together and have a nice day. (These are things the men who most impress my daughter have done!) If she doesn't want to go out again, you could then say, "Oh? I had a nice time last night. I hope I didn't do anything to offend you." This is only if you want to try to find out why she doesn't want another date.
My daughter read some helpful books that gave her more confidence in dating; such things as knowing how to read signals from men, how to not give wrong impressions, what men are looking for in a woman, and such. A couple of them are by Bruce Bryans. He has some books that help men with dating and how to develop a quality relationship with a woman, as well. You might look into these.
Finally, you are looking for someone that meets a number of criteria and who is compatible with you, maybe for a lifetime. Don't be surprised that you may have some okay dates, some really bad ones, and eventually the really great ones with the right person. Change anything you think might make you a better man (for your own self), but beyond that, don't take it personally that there will be many women who just aren't right for you. You're looking for the one you'll enjoy spending your life with!
Best wishes! You can do this!