Got myself extremely hyped up to go on a date with a girl I met who was exactly my type (yes she supports Trump) and seemingly out of my league. Everything seemed to be going very well, she was texting me constantly and trying to make plans with me after I first asked if she wanted to go out.
Then we went on what I thought was a “date” but perhaps wasn’t. After we were done eating she said she was going home about 10 min later.
I don’t know what went wrong and I guess it doesn’t really matter now. But I really feel like shit and idk what to do. My job makes me stressed and sometimes I think about destroying my career rather than showing up for work on Monday. The election has been destroying my positive mindset in every way imaginable. I was so happy when I thought I might be building a relationship with a girl who I felt was a perfect fit for me and thought things might be turning around. Now I feel much worse than before I met her... even feeling worse than when Trump lost the election.
I know this is a bit pathetic but I really don’t know what else to do but ask for advice here. I appreciate any advice you can give me for dealing with this situation. PS no Hillary, I am not suicidal.
I don't think this opportunity is anywhere nearly as golden as you think. There's NOTHING so far that you have stated about this woman that indicates anything superior about this woman besides her appearance - which again can be highly subjective.
What's ironic is that all the idiot, stupid men here who are claiming to support you are actually reinforcing your false belief that you did something wrong and that you're inherently inferior to her because of your appearance or your behavior.
Even as they claim to be 'alphas', their fundamental premise is that this woman is a prize and that you're not.
What actually makes her such a prize beyond her appearance and her initial desperation and over-eagerness to 'hang out' with you?
Have you EVER asked yourself that?
Why not?
I mean, Jesus Christ guy ... Do you GENUINELY believe SHE did NOTHING WRONG?
You're welcome. You need to ask your lady wtf happened :/ How do you know it can all be chalked down to something as vague as not being good with women? After all at the party you were good enough for her! Come on. Just a couple days ago, she liked you enough to ask you to take a road trip with her and now suddenly she thinks you're awkward and not confident?
Naaahh. Doesn't seem like that at all. It doesn't work that way. Suddenly she thinks you're ugly in just 2 days?? Nooope!
You gotta figure out what you were talking about in the 5 minutes before she announced that she wanted to leave. You really gotta think about that.
Seriously, also consider asking her what happened.
It sounds like you really want this to be about your looks and personality as opposed to some gaffe or faux pas you may have made with your words or actions.
But sorry man. This probably has very little to do with your looks and general personality. You may want it to be about that but if it was, she wouldn't have responded enthusiastically at first when she already knew what you looked like and had interacted with her.
What happened right before she told you she had to go?
Hmm nothing that you said about your own words sounds bad at all. Bringing up an R-rated subject like hookers on a first date could be bad BUT she definitely brought up the subject! She started it. And quite frankly, telling a new guy that she got mistaken for a hooker is not a good idea for a first date.
The dancing girl comment does not sound cringe-inducing at all! I think it's way more cringe-worthy that a girl mocks another woman's appearance and calls her a "butterface". And then she made it way worse by saying she was joking to avoid coming off as mean. That just seems weird. If she's a blunt type of person who says mean things about people sometimes, she should own it. Why hide behind the "i was joking" excuse? Why cop out?
Asking you if you would trade places with the playboy/pornstar guy is hella weird for a first date! It's too much. I can understand if you two had been drinking and she was trying to be 'playful' or something. But it just ... it's too much for a first date when you're both fairly sober to bring up sexual debauchery and then ask someone if they're into that.
Don't apologize for the long comment. That's cool.
Honestly, uhh, I'm not hearing much to indicate that this lady is ... an easygoing, nice, laid back but honest person. She actually sounds rather judgmental and also ... the type of person who does NOT put others at ease!
There's an interesting pattern here where she actually seems like she might be put off by guys NOT being degenerates. It's weird that she said she was mistaken for a prostitute and that she asked you if you would be interested in a lot of sexual debauchery.
It's also weird that you feel like you pushed her away by NOT wanting prostitutes or sexual debauchery or girls shaking their asses on instagram.
Also interesting that the moment you said that the Instagram girl had a decent body, your chick chimed in with a solid neg on that girl and called her a "butterface".
I'm not reading anything genuinely nice about this girl.
My previous theory stands. Seems like you're not seeing this girl's flaws at all.
She doesn't sound like she put you at ease at all! Sounds more like you felt like you were on trial the whole time and she kept needling you to discuss sexual topics and kept pushing you in that direction and ignoring your discomfort.
Remember, SHE wanted to take a road trip one on one with you. Again, this is too much for someone she does not know.
I don't think this girl is as great as you think she is. I'm not saying she's evil and bad or anything. But she's nowhere near as awesome as you've made her out to be.
If anything, it sounds like she's a lot more promiscuous and sexually driven and kinda bitchy than she's openly letting on. To tell a guy she doesn't know well that she was mistaken for a prostitute, ehhhh. Just seems weird. And asking that same guy to take a road trip with her when she's known him for 2-3 days - pretty hecking weird.
You REALLY need to take many steps back and evaluate this whole thing.
P.S: I thought you had been kidding about the road trip thing. I went back and read it. This road trip thing, the day trip thing... this is ridiculous! She doesn't even know you!
She doesn't even know you for more than a few days and she wants to travel with you alone for 2-3 days. This is insane.