I’m not religious either, but am working on becoming more so. I think think it’s all a balance, temptation included. I view as giving in to selfish desires rather than giving to others. Of course, nothing is wrong with attending to our own wants but there is often a point reached at which temptation controls us more than we can control it. Sometimes not giving in to temptation brings more pleasure than not. Bringing it back to the fapping issue, I do it like the rest of you. But have recently experimented with not doing it at all for about a month and my energy level and relationship with my wife have improved. I guess I pay attention to her more. So there is something to it.