No way to undo it now. In fact I would say she probably doesn't have long to live. Along with her mental problems she's also had diabetes since birth. But she's never followed the advice of her doctors and took her medication. Now she's just shy of 30 and she's going through dialysis multiple times per week because her kidneys don't work correctly anymore.

How did she get to the point she's at? Broken family. Her parents split up when she was probably 5. Her mother was/is a drug addict and alcoholic and her father didn't have much to do with her when she was younger. He has gotten more involved in her life as she's gotten older, but it's too late. The entire extended family tried very hard and did a lot for her when she was younger, but she was determined to be a rebel and go down the path she went down.

So yeah, she had a rough upbringing, but she was offered help many many times by many family members and she always turned her back on that help. There is no love lost between her and my family. I raised two great and successful kids and offered her the chance to live with us with the stipulation that she abide by my rules, which were not draconian at all. But she shit on us and I don't even care anymore. It is what it is and I don't feel any remorse about the way things are between us. I did what I could do.