I just found out over the past 2 or so months my wife of almost 20 years has been reading a lot about deconversion/deconstruction. There was an event about 5 years ago in which she was spiritually abused. For 22-ish+ years, she's been a daily bible reader. Then, it all stopped one day. She used to read a kids version to our 8 year old at bedtime each night, and that stopped too.
She confessed to me last night that she no longer believes in God at all. This is the first I'm hearing about things like deconstruction, but talking to my brother in law about it, it's apparently running rampant in his church, too.
Heads up patriots! I could use all the prayers you got.
Has anyone been faced with this? Has anyone been successful in stopping it? We have 6 kids and she now wants to divorce and go be free.
This is why I'm personally not fond of organized churches as a concept. It's a construct of Man to publically put worship on display as an act. Spirituality is, and always will be, a private and personal journey. Seeking help from others isn't inherently a bad thing, but it also opens up to outside influences of the material world. Something that must always be tempered with caution. Almost sounds like she's not coming to grips where the dichotomy of worship and tradition come into play. There's reading the scriptures dutifully out of habit and obligation and then there's READING it and ruminating on the spirit of the words. Is she as truly as faithful as she believed? That's what I'd say might be the question she's wrestling with and doesn't want to confront. Tests of faith aren't ever easy.
All of that is exactly what I've been thinking as well.