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majorelint 2 points ago +2 / -0

There is plenty of blame to go around on everyone in this story.

Clearly the school and the policy of social promotion. Promoting kids to keep up with other kids their age ensures that they will never be able to learn anything. And given that clearly the majority of the kids in this school learned nothing you have set up everyone for failure. This is another one of those 'unintended' consequences of affirmative action type policies.

Also the mother has some share in the blame. She puts it all on the school but much of it rests on her, primarily for being a single mother of THREE children. Sure she works three jobs but she would be better off if she was in a relationship with the father (s?) of her children to raise them. Now because of her irresponsibility he children will be more or less drains on the state, and she is not unique, clearly this is the norm for her community.

And of course the kid is to blame as well. No discipline, no values. 272 absences over the years. He was out of school more than in. That starts in the home.

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edxzxz 1 point ago +1 / -0

If she were in a relationship with the father, she would be worse off under our current system - dad would have to pay child support, which he won't actually do since he's likely an unemployed / under employed loser who at best would make minimum wage, and she'd lose all her welfare benefits. This is the root of the problem - mothers need to be responsible for identifying the fathers of their children so they can pay their rightful share of the burden of raising a kid, instead of making it more financially rewarding to keep pumping out fatherless children. Change it so mom's benefits are calculated based on 2 parents contributing - and if mom refuses to i.d. dad, then his presumed income is imputed and her benefits calculated based on him contributing - so then it's up to her to get him to contribute.

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DeusVultIntensifies 1 point ago +1 / -0

The mother doesn't have some share of the blame, she has all the blame. She didn't even attend the one parent conference requested. I bet if we did deeper into her story we will find she wasn't overwhelmed with work and there were other reasons she didn't care and turned a blind eye to the problems with her son.