Girls need better role models. PERIOD. You don't see the home makers because they stay at home.
Staying at home is NOT glamorous. It tends to be the opposite of exciting. A person won't be satisfied with staying at home if they are addicted to the pleasures in the world.
Staying at home and raising a family is a SELFLESS act. It is done for the benefit of others, not the mom. A person cannot do this if they put themselves first.
You need to train women to be based, secure in who they are, and with the desire to serve others before themselves.
You touch on a great point. MANY women who work outside the home do not actually need to. Some do but I know many who don't / didn't need to work while their kids were in the home, especially... but they choose to do it, oftentimes because the truth is they can't hack being a stay at home mom and wife. They care a lot about what this dysfunctional society has to say about them. They desperately want to be "somebody" and aren't okay with just being what they need to be to the most important people.
Some of them want "financial independence," which is a totally backwards way to approach a marriage if you want it to LAST. Some are willing to spend as much on childcare as what they make because the truth is they just don't want to / can't handle being home taking care of their kids / family.
I know I sound kind of judgemental but in many cases, I think it's warranted, and it's about time people start being a little judgemental and calling out the REAL motivations that many of these women have... selfish motivations. What's worse is that these same women love to play the victim / martyr and pretend what they're doing is a big sacrifice, and our society too often encourages that lie.
Now of course there ARE some women who DO need to work to support their families. I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about the ones who really have no good reason they need to. The only reasons they have are actually selfish.
Its more about the fact that when you do call them out that you got males(normally married ones in my case) that defend those women instead of actually listening.
The most common thing that was said is "You are not a woman/married so what makes you have the right to say anything to her"(which is normally after the fact that most of them do like to abuse their positions). It has really turned a lot of women off besides the fact that I don't put up with the bull of wanting to manipulate another person. Gotten multiple guys to see that so there is progress, but drastically slow though.
I agree with you for the most part. The only thing I disagree with is that you there is no benefit for the mother. There is a huge benefit. You get to see your baby grow. You see all their firsts. You have the freedom to parent the way you want to, without having to stick to a daycare schedule. You don't get as sick because your kid isn't catching all those super bugs from daycare and you don't catch them from people at the office. You don't get as stressed because you don't have to focus on work and home. Your marriage is better because you both have your roles. These are just some that I have experienced.
I actually agree with everything you said. Didn't mean to imply that there was no benefits to the mom, but the mom needs to have those benefits as their priority, not other life perks.
There are those that can't imagine reducing their spending by quitting their job and staying home. There are those that find their kids an annoyance and can only take them in small doses.
There are those that don't believe they could ever teach their own children, so would never contemplate homeschooling. The truth is, they can do it. It is a lot of effort, but it can be done.
I really get frustrated when someone says, "I could never do that!" (for just about anything) Sure you could (for the most part), it takes practice and time, but in the end you could, if you wanted to do it.
Girls need better role models. PERIOD. You don't see the home makers because they stay at home.
Staying at home is NOT glamorous. It tends to be the opposite of exciting. A person won't be satisfied with staying at home if they are addicted to the pleasures in the world.
Staying at home and raising a family is a SELFLESS act. It is done for the benefit of others, not the mom. A person cannot do this if they put themselves first.
You need to train women to be based, secure in who they are, and with the desire to serve others before themselves.
You touch on a great point. MANY women who work outside the home do not actually need to. Some do but I know many who don't / didn't need to work while their kids were in the home, especially... but they choose to do it, oftentimes because the truth is they can't hack being a stay at home mom and wife. They care a lot about what this dysfunctional society has to say about them. They desperately want to be "somebody" and aren't okay with just being what they need to be to the most important people.
Some of them want "financial independence," which is a totally backwards way to approach a marriage if you want it to LAST. Some are willing to spend as much on childcare as what they make because the truth is they just don't want to / can't handle being home taking care of their kids / family.
I know I sound kind of judgemental but in many cases, I think it's warranted, and it's about time people start being a little judgemental and calling out the REAL motivations that many of these women have... selfish motivations. What's worse is that these same women love to play the victim / martyr and pretend what they're doing is a big sacrifice, and our society too often encourages that lie.
Now of course there ARE some women who DO need to work to support their families. I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about the ones who really have no good reason they need to. The only reasons they have are actually selfish.
Domestically inept women who disdain maturity.
Its more about the fact that when you do call them out that you got males(normally married ones in my case) that defend those women instead of actually listening.
The most common thing that was said is "You are not a woman/married so what makes you have the right to say anything to her"(which is normally after the fact that most of them do like to abuse their positions). It has really turned a lot of women off besides the fact that I don't put up with the bull of wanting to manipulate another person. Gotten multiple guys to see that so there is progress, but drastically slow though.
I agree with you for the most part. The only thing I disagree with is that you there is no benefit for the mother. There is a huge benefit. You get to see your baby grow. You see all their firsts. You have the freedom to parent the way you want to, without having to stick to a daycare schedule. You don't get as sick because your kid isn't catching all those super bugs from daycare and you don't catch them from people at the office. You don't get as stressed because you don't have to focus on work and home. Your marriage is better because you both have your roles. These are just some that I have experienced.
I actually agree with everything you said. Didn't mean to imply that there was no benefits to the mom, but the mom needs to have those benefits as their priority, not other life perks.
There are those that can't imagine reducing their spending by quitting their job and staying home. There are those that find their kids an annoyance and can only take them in small doses.
There are those that don't believe they could ever teach their own children, so would never contemplate homeschooling. The truth is, they can do it. It is a lot of effort, but it can be done.
I really get frustrated when someone says, "I could never do that!" (for just about anything) Sure you could (for the most part), it takes practice and time, but in the end you could, if you wanted to do it.