I agree completely, but physical attractiveness is what you see first, and it is enough to establish initial attraction. The other attributes will either increase or decrease overall attractiveness as they make themselves known. I've witnessed many of my friends drawn into relationships by physical attraction alone, and it didn't end well for any of them.
I remember back when one would actually get to know someone first, before they started bumping uglies. You would learn all the important stuff first, resulting in a relationship based on things that mattered, and would never go away. The physical aspect of a relationship is nice, but it won't last forever. Brains, good morals, compassion, etc. are forever.
Be especially aware of fantasies. A very, very large part starts with fantasies. Teach to guard against fantasies will help in a lot of other areas as well.
My mother has it so my excuse is that I inherited it from my father. I'm like,
"Is that a hot mess over there? Gimme some of that insanity. Just wrap me up in this bitch's madness, fam. She's got a knife and wants to cut herself? Stop drilling you hit oil. Just call me Lovecraft because I fucking love losing my mind."
I can see it seeming cute when you're young. In your mid 30's taking dating a little more seriously and you realize this person is not capable of having a long term relationship without randomly attempting to ruin both of your lives at the drop of a hat, it gets less funny.
I've known some extremely attractive women with mental issues, but I do follow the rule of never sticking your dick in crazy.
I agree completely, but physical attractiveness is what you see first, and it is enough to establish initial attraction. The other attributes will either increase or decrease overall attractiveness as they make themselves known. I've witnessed many of my friends drawn into relationships by physical attraction alone, and it didn't end well for any of them.
I remember back when one would actually get to know someone first, before they started bumping uglies. You would learn all the important stuff first, resulting in a relationship based on things that mattered, and would never go away. The physical aspect of a relationship is nice, but it won't last forever. Brains, good morals, compassion, etc. are forever.
It's sad that when my husband and I end up having "the talk" with our kid, it's basically going to sum up to that.
I mean we could and should go into everything about not having kids before being ready, but this takes priority these days.
Be especially aware of fantasies. A very, very large part starts with fantasies. Teach to guard against fantasies will help in a lot of other areas as well.
I was extremely attracted to a girl I dated with BPD, it was like a curse.
My mother has it so my excuse is that I inherited it from my father. I'm like,
"Is that a hot mess over there? Gimme some of that insanity. Just wrap me up in this bitch's madness, fam. She's got a knife and wants to cut herself? Stop drilling you hit oil. Just call me Lovecraft because I fucking love losing my mind."
I need help.
I can see it seeming cute when you're young. In your mid 30's taking dating a little more seriously and you realize this person is not capable of having a long term relationship without randomly attempting to ruin both of your lives at the drop of a hat, it gets less funny.