Some people marry abusers and stay with them for years. They let the abuser gaslight them, threaten them, beat them to a pulp, rape them, impregnate them, use the children against them.
The "victim" does nothing. They find excuses for their abuser and get drunk to deal with their sorrow. Others try to intervene, but nothing works. The person ends up back with the abuser.
This goes on until one day, there is a straw that breaks the camel's back. Only then does the person say "Enough!", assert their will, and leave the abuser. From this point on, they might have other dysfunctional relationships, but they will be dysfunctional in a different way, and they will often never talk to the abuser again.
This is all the media followers. They are being abused, and trying to rescue them is equally as effective as cops intervening with a man who is beating his wife. Nothing works until the person is ready to leave. Heck, if the abuser leaves before the victim is ready, the "victim" will even find another abuser.
You're not mentioning the other common occurrence, the abuser needs to slowly increase the intensity of their physical/mental attacks to continue to feel the same sense of power and authority they used to. The victim continues to suffer these attacks while putting up minimal defense. These things combined often end with the abuser going a bit too far with their escalations and murdering the victim, with the victim sadly accepting it.
Some people marry abusers and stay with them for years. They let the abuser gaslight them, threaten them, beat them to a pulp, rape them, impregnate them, use the children against them.
The "victim" does nothing. They find excuses for their abuser and get drunk to deal with their sorrow. Others try to intervene, but nothing works. The person ends up back with the abuser.
This goes on until one day, there is a straw that breaks the camel's back. Only then does the person say "Enough!", assert their will, and leave the abuser. From this point on, they might have other dysfunctional relationships, but they will be dysfunctional in a different way, and they will often never talk to the abuser again.
This is all the media followers. They are being abused, and trying to rescue them is equally as effective as cops intervening with a man who is beating his wife. Nothing works until the person is ready to leave. Heck, if the abuser leaves before the victim is ready, the "victim" will even find another abuser.
You're not mentioning the other common occurrence, the abuser needs to slowly increase the intensity of their physical/mental attacks to continue to feel the same sense of power and authority they used to. The victim continues to suffer these attacks while putting up minimal defense. These things combined often end with the abuser going a bit too far with their escalations and murdering the victim, with the victim sadly accepting it.