I can tell you, as male raised by a single mother who a damn great job, the difference i see in my nephews raised in a full mother/father family is amazing. they will be a decade a head of where i was.
My mom left and my dad took care of me and my brother and we dont talk to my mother to this day but i still wish I had a woman in my life that cared about me enough to warn me about the many different ways a young woman can be taken advantage of. I'm proud of who I am but I wasted my teen years just being confused and trying to drink myself to death. I was never a bad kid but had low self esteem and I would have prospered so much more in a nurturing, supportive environment. Dad did all he could but men are clueless sometimes and we were bankrupt and losing the house. He is my best friend to this day and i couldn't imagine life without him. What's funny is my mom tried to play the victim when she left us out of the blue for the 24 year old assistant of my brothers tennis coach. My dad and mom even shared an office when this happened and continued to share an office and my dad even hired the guy while he was fucking his wife before the divorce went through. She thinks she did nothing wrong to this day. Oh yeah and she took half my college fund. Dads are important. Hahaha my mother tells people that me and my brother won't talk to her because "they were taught to hate" (by my dad). Lol as if we were deaf dumb and blind when she left us to try to be a teenager again. No place for people like that in my life.
Only thing you can do is be that supportive parent to your own kids one day. Marry well, someone willing to stick with it through hardships. End the broken family cycle with you.
Wow, thanks for posting. Its helpful to read things like this, and they arent very common to see in my experience.
I'm in a similar spot, raising my kids without their mom, but she left for other reasons. We havent seen her or talked much to her for almost 3yrs. At this point i think that will most likely continue.... I have 1 daughter and 3 sons. My daughter is 13 now, and the boys are 12, 16, and 17. Theyre all doing okay, and trying hard in school and sports, so mostly doing good.... But i worry about them. And the content shoved in theur faces by their shows and society in general doesnt help. Theyre trying to teach kids to have sympathy for the wrong things, and teaching them to hate the right things.... I feel like I'm countering moves everyday....
Anyway, I could go on quite a bit as your post was very relateable, but i probably shouldnt at the moment.
I was raised in a dysfunctional family with a part-time dad and a full-time mom. I am one of the strongest and most solid individuals in either side of my family and my friends. Now, most of the rest of my family was also in dysfunctional situations, but many of my friends had regular childhoods without a bunch of crazy shit.
Personal responsibility and choice is a large part of it. The leftists in the cities blaming daddy issues for robbing the local liquor store are just putting off responsibility for their own actions. No matter how fucked up your childhood and upbringing, you still have a choice (and boy, was my childhood fucked beyond belief).
I can tell you, as male raised by a single mother who a damn great job, the difference i see in my nephews raised in a full mother/father family is amazing. they will be a decade a head of where i was.
My mom left and my dad took care of me and my brother and we dont talk to my mother to this day but i still wish I had a woman in my life that cared about me enough to warn me about the many different ways a young woman can be taken advantage of. I'm proud of who I am but I wasted my teen years just being confused and trying to drink myself to death. I was never a bad kid but had low self esteem and I would have prospered so much more in a nurturing, supportive environment. Dad did all he could but men are clueless sometimes and we were bankrupt and losing the house. He is my best friend to this day and i couldn't imagine life without him. What's funny is my mom tried to play the victim when she left us out of the blue for the 24 year old assistant of my brothers tennis coach. My dad and mom even shared an office when this happened and continued to share an office and my dad even hired the guy while he was fucking his wife before the divorce went through. She thinks she did nothing wrong to this day. Oh yeah and she took half my college fund. Dads are important. Hahaha my mother tells people that me and my brother won't talk to her because "they were taught to hate" (by my dad). Lol as if we were deaf dumb and blind when she left us to try to be a teenager again. No place for people like that in my life.
Only thing you can do is be that supportive parent to your own kids one day. Marry well, someone willing to stick with it through hardships. End the broken family cycle with you.
Wow, thanks for posting. Its helpful to read things like this, and they arent very common to see in my experience. I'm in a similar spot, raising my kids without their mom, but she left for other reasons. We havent seen her or talked much to her for almost 3yrs. At this point i think that will most likely continue.... I have 1 daughter and 3 sons. My daughter is 13 now, and the boys are 12, 16, and 17. Theyre all doing okay, and trying hard in school and sports, so mostly doing good.... But i worry about them. And the content shoved in theur faces by their shows and society in general doesnt help. Theyre trying to teach kids to have sympathy for the wrong things, and teaching them to hate the right things.... I feel like I'm countering moves everyday....
Anyway, I could go on quite a bit as your post was very relateable, but i probably shouldnt at the moment.
Take care!
I was raised in a dysfunctional family with a part-time dad and a full-time mom. I am one of the strongest and most solid individuals in either side of my family and my friends. Now, most of the rest of my family was also in dysfunctional situations, but many of my friends had regular childhoods without a bunch of crazy shit.
Personal responsibility and choice is a large part of it. The leftists in the cities blaming daddy issues for robbing the local liquor store are just putting off responsibility for their own actions. No matter how fucked up your childhood and upbringing, you still have a choice (and boy, was my childhood fucked beyond belief).