I posted below about having a family member going through this. The parents are powerless. All psychiatrists and therapists affirm, teachers change the kid's name without telling them, Planned Parenthood will give them hormones without parental consent, all under the threat that their child will commit suicide without them.
Personally, if it were my kid, I'd move off-grid. Parental responsibility comes before this ball starts rolling by keeping their kid off ALL social media. I have 2 girls 11 and 13 and they know that's just not an option for them. But were we to have this come up, there would be no help from the medical community, only massive opposition against me. It is criminal.
No offense to your family members' parenting skills, but you have to be a good parent from the start, not decide to be one when shit starts going down. If you raise your kids to respect you, respect the family, and not be self-focused navel-gazing losers, you won't end up being in this situation at all, let alone being powerless.
The parents were good in many ways, but gave 100% free rein of the internet (iPhone, Snapchat, YouTube) to their child from the age of 12. This was a colossal mistake.
I'm not offended, I warned them.
That being said, you would think that psychiatrists and therapists would be there to help, they are not.
As far as your other comments, they lead me to believe you don't have kids. I know wonderful parents whose kids go off the rails. There are many issues (chemical, psychological) which are so far outside the parenting realm that it's laughable to think great parenting will automatically guarantee great, healthy adults.
some parents are powerless, relative to the vast groups around their child who are carrying a big flag for them and pushing them forward. Some parents are on board and doing the pushing for pathologies all of their own.
If your girls are in public school stay on top of them like a hawk. I've seen this shit go down over the course of a week. Know what's being taught in class, know their friends and provide lots of healthy opportunities for them to grow in a positive direction.
Also massive points for keeping them off social media.
If they have internet access look into https://www.opendns.com/ for free content blocking on your home network.
Thanks for the info, I'm really on top of it. We use Qustodio (in case this helps other parents) and block all SM and keep an eye on all online activity. They're in private school as they have mild learning differences, but if they didn't they'd be going to another private, or home school.
It's pretty funny watching my 13 year old have to text with an old flip phone, but if I did it so can she! LOL
I have a family member going through this. The parents can now easily be excluded. The teachers use the male name, they can go to many places (like Planned Parenthood) to get hormones without their parents. Psychiatrists almost ALL affirm the transition and threaten the parents with their child's suicide if they don't comply.
You'd be shocked at what the medical establishment will do without parental consent. Once they turn 18 all bets are off.
My mom is mentally ill. She was raped in high school, gave birth to a boy, and put him up for adoption. She got married asap after school and had another kid in an attempt to replace the one she lost. It was a girl. Eventually she divorced and got married to my dad. Had me (also girl) and then my brother. They divorced when my brother was 4 months old (I was 4 years). She sterilized herself shortly after the divorce because "mission accomplished" basically.
My mom spent most of her time trying to influence me away from girly things and my brother could do no wrong. I was always a bit of a tomboy admittedly (I loved playing Sega and watching the original run of Power Rangers) and still am, but she pushed it past that. "Oh you want to buy THAT? Why? It's pink, ew. That's for girly girls. You don't want that." Things like that. I wasn't allowed to experiment with makeup. I wasn't allowed to do anything with my hair (straightening, styling, etc). I wasn't allowed to date (first date happened in college as a result, which isn't good). Long list of things. I'm still very tomboyish, but I'm trying to learn to embrace femininity now. It's hard as hell to tell the difference between being female in certain traits and this popular thot culture.
I was born in 1988 so this transitioning crap wasn't around when I was growing up. My mom has an adult friend who "is trans" and has gone through the ENTIRE process of this in his 60s to pretend to be a woman. This includes the surgery for the gaping gash they pretend is a vagina. My mom is 100% supportive. If this shit was around when I was a kid, my mother would have forced me into transition so she could have "another boy" to raise. Sometimes the parents are the cause of this, not just powerless to stop it.
This girl is young. Where were her parents when she was mutilating herself? I blame the parents
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I posted below about having a family member going through this. The parents are powerless. All psychiatrists and therapists affirm, teachers change the kid's name without telling them, Planned Parenthood will give them hormones without parental consent, all under the threat that their child will commit suicide without them.
Personally, if it were my kid, I'd move off-grid. Parental responsibility comes before this ball starts rolling by keeping their kid off ALL social media. I have 2 girls 11 and 13 and they know that's just not an option for them. But were we to have this come up, there would be no help from the medical community, only massive opposition against me. It is criminal.
No offense to your family members' parenting skills, but you have to be a good parent from the start, not decide to be one when shit starts going down. If you raise your kids to respect you, respect the family, and not be self-focused navel-gazing losers, you won't end up being in this situation at all, let alone being powerless.
The parents were good in many ways, but gave 100% free rein of the internet (iPhone, Snapchat, YouTube) to their child from the age of 12. This was a colossal mistake.
I'm not offended, I warned them.
That being said, you would think that psychiatrists and therapists would be there to help, they are not.
As far as your other comments, they lead me to believe you don't have kids. I know wonderful parents whose kids go off the rails. There are many issues (chemical, psychological) which are so far outside the parenting realm that it's laughable to think great parenting will automatically guarantee great, healthy adults.
some parents are powerless, relative to the vast groups around their child who are carrying a big flag for them and pushing them forward. Some parents are on board and doing the pushing for pathologies all of their own.
You're absolutely right about that.
If your girls are in public school stay on top of them like a hawk. I've seen this shit go down over the course of a week. Know what's being taught in class, know their friends and provide lots of healthy opportunities for them to grow in a positive direction.
Also massive points for keeping them off social media.
If they have internet access look into https://www.opendns.com/ for free content blocking on your home network.
Thanks for the info, I'm really on top of it. We use Qustodio (in case this helps other parents) and block all SM and keep an eye on all online activity. They're in private school as they have mild learning differences, but if they didn't they'd be going to another private, or home school.
It's pretty funny watching my 13 year old have to text with an old flip phone, but if I did it so can she! LOL
I have a family member going through this. The parents can now easily be excluded. The teachers use the male name, they can go to many places (like Planned Parenthood) to get hormones without their parents. Psychiatrists almost ALL affirm the transition and threaten the parents with their child's suicide if they don't comply.
You'd be shocked at what the medical establishment will do without parental consent. Once they turn 18 all bets are off.
My mom is mentally ill. She was raped in high school, gave birth to a boy, and put him up for adoption. She got married asap after school and had another kid in an attempt to replace the one she lost. It was a girl. Eventually she divorced and got married to my dad. Had me (also girl) and then my brother. They divorced when my brother was 4 months old (I was 4 years). She sterilized herself shortly after the divorce because "mission accomplished" basically.
My mom spent most of her time trying to influence me away from girly things and my brother could do no wrong. I was always a bit of a tomboy admittedly (I loved playing Sega and watching the original run of Power Rangers) and still am, but she pushed it past that. "Oh you want to buy THAT? Why? It's pink, ew. That's for girly girls. You don't want that." Things like that. I wasn't allowed to experiment with makeup. I wasn't allowed to do anything with my hair (straightening, styling, etc). I wasn't allowed to date (first date happened in college as a result, which isn't good). Long list of things. I'm still very tomboyish, but I'm trying to learn to embrace femininity now. It's hard as hell to tell the difference between being female in certain traits and this popular thot culture.
I was born in 1988 so this transitioning crap wasn't around when I was growing up. My mom has an adult friend who "is trans" and has gone through the ENTIRE process of this in his 60s to pretend to be a woman. This includes the surgery for the gaping gash they pretend is a vagina. My mom is 100% supportive. If this shit was around when I was a kid, my mother would have forced me into transition so she could have "another boy" to raise. Sometimes the parents are the cause of this, not just powerless to stop it.
Checked her Twitter. She’s only 22 and has already had 5 years of hormone treatment.
Today's parents don't say no anymore, I'm assuming it's considered child abuse or some shit.