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posted ago by joax ago by joax +188 / -0

Just watched the moving truck pull away. 15 years down the drain. She couldn’t handle 2020, I couldn’t adjust to the change she needed. The world is a strange place.

EDIT::::::::))))) Thanks for all the kind words, friends. Never knew there was still an encouraging and uplifting place left on the Internet. I’m so glad I found this community.

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dudleydorightorwrong 38 points ago +38 / -0

I find enormous amounts of peace walking in the woods. Give that a shot. God lives there.

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thelastlast 19 points ago +19 / -0

this is weirdly true. the first few days you might find this advice to be bullshit, and then all of the sudden God will appear out of nowhere.

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War_Hamster 9 points ago +9 / -0

That's me when I'm diving.

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martel732 7 points ago +7 / -0

He certainly will.

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True-Grit 6 points ago +6 / -0

Green is my favorite color for this very reason. Calming affect.

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

Perfect time for a hike, thanks for this.

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joax [S] 4 points ago +4 / -0

I need to make sure to reach out, I’m an over thinker who tends to stew. Thanks for this.

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

LOL if I weren’t in the land of make believe science and lockdowns, I’d try it.

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E-dantes 23 points ago +23 / -0

Well, speak to a counselor if you think ya need it, or a friend. Dont douse yourself in alcohol, and get a hobby. Prayers for comfort, and clarity of thought.

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

I appreciate it, time for new habits not old and harmful ones.

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themightykekfish 18 points ago +18 / -0

I too just got separated but it was a long time comin.

2020 was tooo much tuna

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

The big katuna for sure. I think this was a long time coming too. Hope the best for you and your situation.

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themightykekfish 2 points ago +2 / -0

Oh yeah I’m moving into a van by the river!!

Seriously good fishing around here.

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sunnyingreenfield 17 points ago +17 / -0

One foot in front of the other, friend. You will get through this and emerge stronger

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

What doesn’t kill me and all that Nietzsche. Moving forward is the only way. Thanks

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christ93_1 16 points ago +16 / -0

Keep busy. Don't stew in it.

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

That’s the plan, time to move on up.

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jenroyandmoss 13 points ago +13 / -0

May blessings and comfort find you. In the meantime, binge watch Psych starting at series 5 ... It'll remind you world once had a light heart and true love - and will again. believe.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Thanks for the recommendation, I’ll check it out. Always heard good things about the show.

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WenOli311 13 points ago +13 / -0

Ouch. I think u need a beer.

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

One ouchbrau for me, thanks haha

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HumansDisgustMe 13 points ago +13 / -0

Just another modern fast food cunt. Sorry bro.

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

A Throw away culture. A Throw away election. A Throw away government. A Throw away marriage. It’s all on theme.

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Chopblock 12 points ago +12 / -0

The years aren’t “down the drain”, anymore than your childhood, or your teenage years — they now exist eternally in expanding time/space, and in the part of you that harnesses them to be a better man tomorrow than you were yesterday.

All things beautiful and terrible are destined to crumble into dust — hold on tightly, and let go lightly.

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

It will all contribute to making me stronger and better, but it’s hard to see something I put so much effort into completely fall apart. I know better things are coming, and my head won’t be hanging too low to see them coming. Thanks for your comment.

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call-it-like-i-sees 12 points ago +12 / -0

Very sad news. People handle rough waters in vastly different ways, and it seems she couldn't row the boat with her partner and bailed. Take some time to get to know yourself again, stay open to new friendships as well as old ones. There's a positive future ahead for you - just be patient!

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joax [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

That’s the truth of it. Anytime difficulty appeared I was suddenly standing alone. Time to find the better and brighter side. Thanks for this.

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guten_morgen 10 points ago +10 / -0

Hang in there!

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joax [S] 4 points ago +4 / -0

I’ve got a good family and some good friends, and I will be calling in some favors this week haha. Thanks

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Ducki305 9 points ago +9 / -0

Sorry to hear that anon. Will be praying for you.

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joax [S] 4 points ago +4 / -0

Much appreciated, I could use some discernment and that usually only comes from one place.

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Deplorable_bastard 9 points ago +9 / -0

Stay strong my man!!

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

Thanks man!

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FuckGovernment 9 points ago +9 / -0

I handle break-ups really bad. I mean it takes me years to get over relationships because I put so much into them. When I break up, it feels like I've lost a part of myself.

But looking back after enough time to think about it all, I am happy that the previous relationships I was in ended. I couldn't imagine still being with them now.

People do change and evolve. We grow. You have to be the best person YOU can be.

Don't dwell on it too much. Don't turn to alcohol or drugs. Find some good hobbies or go hiking or do the things that you know bring you peace. If you've got some good family, go visit them.

Don't get stuck in a rut like me. Don't move past it too fast either.

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medicpatriot 6 points ago +6 / -0

It can make you grieve like you would for a death. And sometimes that’s what you have to do for a while until you can move on.

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princessalala 3 points ago +3 / -0

Grief is just love with nowhere to go.

I unfortunately personally know this to be true.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Don’t move past it too fast. Great advice, this is something I need to listen carefully to, make sure the growth sticks.

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pray_for_kekistan 9 points ago +9 / -0

Story of a mans life is one bitch leaving and another one on the way.

All will be well. Stay strong.

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

Haha Trying to get out of that cycle and find a good, meaningful partner. Rare but worth the effort to search.

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Thunderchicken 8 points ago +8 / -0

2020 was a hell of a test for anyone, we all learned a ton about our government, our friends, our communities, and even our other halves. Can't be undone, unseen, or unlearned. I myself wallowed in depression for a few months. It came down to a line from Shawshank that I've watched a million times "Get busy livin' or Get busy dyin". Snapped me out of it just enough to wake up and grab hold. Good luck to you Fren, keep your chin up it will get better.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

That’s the true true man. Time to get busy livin because I’m nowhere near the end of what I’m here for. Thanks for this

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ColonelTravis 8 points ago +8 / -0

2020 took a lot of women, from us. You did everything that you could. You spent 15 years being a husband, protector, and provider. You didn’t waste a single day, of those 15 years. You’ve lived an honorable life, and you’ll have years of prosperity ahead, because you are a good man.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Not sure how you know me so well, but these words speak to my heart. None wasted, none lost, only the future to build anew. Thanks for this

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MAGAThor 7 points ago +7 / -0

What was the change she needed? It is going to be okay as long as you stay Up & Up.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

She needed me to fall in line with something I can no longer agree with. She needed me to be a person I’m not, and it couldn’t be any other way for her. It had to break.

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MAGAThor 2 points ago +2 / -0

Yes but what was it?

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

She wears the mask, she hated Trump, she hates guns, she was afraid of becoming “like our parents” (stable, productive, contributive to society).

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MAGAThor 2 points ago +2 / -0

Thank you. You will be SO MUCH better off. Try to mingle only with trump supporters now, it is a new lease on life.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Is there a MAGA dating site yet?

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MAGAThor 1 point ago +1 / -0

Haha that would be awesome, though possibly dangerous. Avoid dating sites anyway. Do things you like to do & meet people in or at those things, places, games etc.

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B0nafidetarzan 5 points ago +5 / -0

Now you can finally build that badass thing you've always wanted. Or get dogs

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

My dog and I are pretty much two ends of the same butt, we’re never too far apart. There are a lot of plans for what to make of the future, and from that perspective I’m finally free to start tinkering. Thanks

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CaliMama 4 points ago +4 / -0

I love you, brother! Your horizon is brilliantly bright. You are a damn unicorn and, as your loving sister, I will never let you forget that. Look at all these “insurrectionists” reminding and encouraging you of the beautiful life that awaits you now. Godspeed❤️

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Thanks, sis. I don’t know what I’d do without the family we were lucky enough to be born into. You’re the best

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laneybelle 4 points ago +4 / -0

That’s tough. There’s a definite separation of right from wrong, good from evil. It’s never been more clear than right now. Be glad it wasn’t another 15 years....

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Very true, I can see that down the road it would have just been darker and more bitter had we forced it further. We have become different people and I’m ready for someone on the right track. Thanks

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martel732 4 points ago +4 / -0

Sorry to hear fren...

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

Thanks man, hopefully there’s still plenty of frogs in the pond haha

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GarudaDarkblack 4 points ago +4 / -0

Same thing happened to me last August. Hopefully it was a peaceful parting. Best thing you can do now is use the extra time you have to better yourself for yourself.

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joax [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Peaceful but painful. I’ll have to learn to put myself first again. Thanks for this

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joax [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

Haha probably so