"I will get around to that later," says everybody. Nobody thinks it out. Does the math.
The young mother will need help from family ladies to care for and distract the first one.
To have five kids that way takes ten years. Spacing them a little closer in age is possible but same ballgame. A full time job.
It is not so much who is having children, but who is NOT having children. Even in Asia it is happening: women have gotten out of the habit of this career: having children. It's a big deal, requires mindset and skills, and is a life in itself.
Only India never fell into this.
The future may be more Indian than Asian.
It's much easier when the father is in the picture.
THIS.
Going through this period in life right this moment. Yes, second pregnancy is much different for my wife when she has to run after a two year old who had learned how to run really well.
Yes. And she is a year older. Make sure she eats steaks.
She needs help. If you are busy, dragoon aunts and cousins in. This has to be a community value. Not a lone hobby.
Irish triplets is the way to go.
Agree.
Im on my second and honestly can't imagine having a third. I want 3 but my morning sickness lasts 6+ months then there's the post partum crash. I wish I'd started in my twenties. And this is with a great husband and a comfortable income. To all the moms having 3+, you are heros.
It is a full-time job having a big family. As it should be.
The second child is hard, and it's a big adjustment learning to split your time and attention wile making sure both kids are properly loved and cared for. But the third child is not as hard as the second, and the fourth even less so. I stopped at four, so I can't say beyond that from personal experience. But I hear from people with large families that additional kids past four are not that big a deal. Of course as the number of kids increases it gets harder to find one-on-one time with each kid every day. And obviously expenses get higher with each additional child. But there are economies of scale and you learn efficiency as you go.
I would also point out that if you have a large family, even if the kids are 2 years apart, by the time you've had 3-4 kids, the older ones can be (and should be trained to be) extremely helpful with the younger ones.
Also, the pregnancies in my thirties were noticeably more draining than the pregnancies in my twenties. And I had more energy for chasing kids in my twenties, too. I strongly recommend that women start their families in their twenties if at all possible.
If a large family is desired, it's pretty much necessary to start when the woman is in her twenties, because fertility falls off so sharply with age.
Well there.
Well said.
children are stupid
buy a robot
It wasn't me who downvoted you.
I remark robots are not cheaper than children. But they are less creative. And they don't require less maintenance. I still recommend children.
they're way more useful
Not later.
yeah but it's offset by all the poop you have to clean
so yeah, get a robot
Honestly, when you have kids, you just cope with pee and poop. Pretty quickly it becomes no big deal to wipe bottoms and change diapers.
Potty training can be frustrating and even embarrassing because of accidents (especially accidentsn in public), but again, it's just something you learn to take in stride. You learn to plan ahead by bringing extra clothes, wipes, etc. Then you just take the kid into a bathroom, clean them up, and go on with your day.
As Verrerogo said, the poop stage passes. And after that, you have an ever more interesting, capable, and independent person to love.
The secret to the poop thing is disposable diapers, packaged wipes, and a year later, just plain throw out poopy underpants. That's a waste, they are washable, but it's cheaper than psychotherapy. Out they go. After one use. That stage passes. I maintain people are more interesting.