I was always told: men like women who like men, so same thing I guess. The trick is figuring out what everybody's personal definition of "the one for me" is.

Push comes to shove the same thing applies in reverse, but there are a lot of very confused people (both sides) -- mistakes are made, shit happens, tickets to the Bitterness Ball ensue; that's life. Just find somebody who likes you and who you can like back (at least most of the time; it really does come down to putting up with each other) -- that's my advice...leaves a lot of room for individual preferences and taste.