Didn’t mean to act as though I completely doubted you, though that’s what I did. Apologies.
I wonder if that has to do w/it being a mostly homogeneous country, where minorities are still a novelty bc only the best have made it thru so far (for the most part). Or if they really just don’t care.
I have a family member who is Korean, half anyway, can’t speak the language- but his Asiany-ness shines thru. (Their word, not mine. They have a ton of these sayings, probably a defense mechanism from growing up ‘different’, which they also explained once inebriated.)
They 100% pride themselves on being fair and open-minded about everything from race to sex to life in general.
Got drunk w/em one night, was genuinely surprised at some of the conversations. And they weren’t at my lead, as I barely talked bc I was too busy listening!
They did tell me they fit in more w/blacks than whites back in high school, bc they went to an almost all black high school and never could seem to break into the few white cliques that were there.
To me, they seem to be peacemakers. An extremely fair-minded people. Very strong women who are family and home oriented. I remember at a wedding, we went to take family pictures, and their brother’s new girlfriend was there. So there was that awkward moment of “does the new girlfriend get in the pictures, or nah?”. I said nah, and the Korean mom overrode me. (It was MY kid’s wedding🤣), but I was totally cool with that, and kind of felt like a cad afterwards. They later got married, so no harm. Some things just aren’t worth fighting over!
That is one thing I noticed quick is that a lot of the women are strong (actually strong, not in the stupid Hollywood way). But I think it makes sense. Usually you see strong/ resilient women in regions that have gone through hard times/ poverty (Eastern Europe, SE Asia, Latin America, parts of Africa) and the Korean War was not that long ago.
Like I said, I lived there for over a year. Made friends and had office parties where everyone got smashed.
Korean Americans probably care about identity politics, but Koreans in Korea didn't seem to at all.
Didn’t mean to act as though I completely doubted you, though that’s what I did. Apologies.
I wonder if that has to do w/it being a mostly homogeneous country, where minorities are still a novelty bc only the best have made it thru so far (for the most part). Or if they really just don’t care.
I have a family member who is Korean, half anyway, can’t speak the language- but his Asiany-ness shines thru. (Their word, not mine. They have a ton of these sayings, probably a defense mechanism from growing up ‘different’, which they also explained once inebriated.)
They 100% pride themselves on being fair and open-minded about everything from race to sex to life in general.
Got drunk w/em one night, was genuinely surprised at some of the conversations. And they weren’t at my lead, as I barely talked bc I was too busy listening!
They did tell me they fit in more w/blacks than whites back in high school, bc they went to an almost all black high school and never could seem to break into the few white cliques that were there.
To me, they seem to be peacemakers. An extremely fair-minded people. Very strong women who are family and home oriented. I remember at a wedding, we went to take family pictures, and their brother’s new girlfriend was there. So there was that awkward moment of “does the new girlfriend get in the pictures, or nah?”. I said nah, and the Korean mom overrode me. (It was MY kid’s wedding🤣), but I was totally cool with that, and kind of felt like a cad afterwards. They later got married, so no harm. Some things just aren’t worth fighting over!
That is one thing I noticed quick is that a lot of the women are strong (actually strong, not in the stupid Hollywood way). But I think it makes sense. Usually you see strong/ resilient women in regions that have gone through hard times/ poverty (Eastern Europe, SE Asia, Latin America, parts of Africa) and the Korean War was not that long ago.