My mom continued to be with my abuser after she found out. She ended up sobbing and asking for forgiveness years later. I don’t hate her but she will never have my love ever again. And when she dies, I’ll shrug my shoulders and probably go eat a sandwich or something.
God @NoMoRedditYo - I'm so sorry that happened. I don't get it. But so many people feel if they ignore something or pretend it isn't happening that it will just go away or right itself.
Best advice I ever heard a Therapist give to a friend who had been in your situation: "Look around you at the weak people, the dumbasses, and cowards in your school. Now realize one day they will be parents. Ask yourself if those people would know what to do in your situation. The answer is probably "no" - or even "hell no!" Some people are born cowards and have spent their lives avoiding taking action or taking responsibility. You were unlucky enough to be born from one of those. Not your fault. So... what can you do? Keep aching? Or make a determination here and now not to be like that. We become who we are in spite of or because of our parents. You now have a choice to Parent Yourself. It sounds weird, but it works. Go into meditation. Imagine you are a parent holding you as a baby. Talk to the baby. Love it. Ask for forgiveness for not knowing what to do. Hug that baby and promise from today on you will protect them and help them heal."
I never forgot that. I helped my friend go through a meditation process like that. I could see the difference in her face within moments. Take your power and use it in a good way. Then swear you won't let what happened to you happen to anyone else if there is any way possible.
Any parent who refuses to kill their child's rapist should be scorned for being the piece of shit that they truly are.
My mom continued to be with my abuser after she found out. She ended up sobbing and asking for forgiveness years later. I don’t hate her but she will never have my love ever again. And when she dies, I’ll shrug my shoulders and probably go eat a sandwich or something.
God @NoMoRedditYo - I'm so sorry that happened. I don't get it. But so many people feel if they ignore something or pretend it isn't happening that it will just go away or right itself.
Best advice I ever heard a Therapist give to a friend who had been in your situation: "Look around you at the weak people, the dumbasses, and cowards in your school. Now realize one day they will be parents. Ask yourself if those people would know what to do in your situation. The answer is probably "no" - or even "hell no!" Some people are born cowards and have spent their lives avoiding taking action or taking responsibility. You were unlucky enough to be born from one of those. Not your fault. So... what can you do? Keep aching? Or make a determination here and now not to be like that. We become who we are in spite of or because of our parents. You now have a choice to Parent Yourself. It sounds weird, but it works. Go into meditation. Imagine you are a parent holding you as a baby. Talk to the baby. Love it. Ask for forgiveness for not knowing what to do. Hug that baby and promise from today on you will protect them and help them heal."
I never forgot that. I helped my friend go through a meditation process like that. I could see the difference in her face within moments. Take your power and use it in a good way. Then swear you won't let what happened to you happen to anyone else if there is any way possible.
God Bless.