I don't think it matters if it's your son or daughter you'd feel the same way as a parent. Just because you have a girl would not make it worse than if you had a boy.
Yeah, sure. I don't disagree, but that's not the point I'm making.
We're not talking about how you would feel if it happened, we're talking about the feeling you have thinking about it now, fearing it might happen.
As a parent of every known gender, I can say my fears for one gender differs from the fear I have for the other. For instance, in my mind, it's much more likely for a boy to break a leg playing sports than it is for him to be raped by a man. Now, maybe that's an accurate opinion, maybe it's not. Doesn't matter, it's not the point. The vast majority of people worry differently for different people in their lives.
So when someone says "killing someone who rapes your daughter is unreasonable" I must assume it's because they either don't have kids at all, or have only boys, and therefore they can't really imagine that actually happening to their sons the way one might fear it happening to their daughter. So they conflate their perceived likelihood of it happening to their son with the severity of the stated reaction -or more simple they can't really envision it, so the statement about killing a rapist seems extreme.
In either case, addressing them as daughterless is appropriate.
In my opinion, if you're a father who wouldn't at least consider killing your daughters rapist? You don't really love your daughter. Sure, same for a son. But until it happens, I'm more concerned about him wrecking his motorcycle, dig?
Sure I understand why people would think "my daughter is way more vunerable than my son" but that kind of thinking might make you miss the signs that your son's coach or teacher or karate instructor may be a predator as well. Believe me these sick monsters love little boys too. But I guess the instinct to protect a female will always be the priority in this society and I'm not gonna say it shouldn't be that way but that's how it is I guess.
I have two daughters. Haven't thought about it often. I just tried imagining it. I haven't often imagined my elbow cracking down on someone's neck before but...
I don't think it matters if it's your son or daughter you'd feel the same way as a parent. Just because you have a girl would not make it worse than if you had a boy.
Yeah, sure. I don't disagree, but that's not the point I'm making.
We're not talking about how you would feel if it happened, we're talking about the feeling you have thinking about it now, fearing it might happen.
As a parent of every known gender, I can say my fears for one gender differs from the fear I have for the other. For instance, in my mind, it's much more likely for a boy to break a leg playing sports than it is for him to be raped by a man. Now, maybe that's an accurate opinion, maybe it's not. Doesn't matter, it's not the point. The vast majority of people worry differently for different people in their lives.
So when someone says "killing someone who rapes your daughter is unreasonable" I must assume it's because they either don't have kids at all, or have only boys, and therefore they can't really imagine that actually happening to their sons the way one might fear it happening to their daughter. So they conflate their perceived likelihood of it happening to their son with the severity of the stated reaction -or more simple they can't really envision it, so the statement about killing a rapist seems extreme.
In either case, addressing them as daughterless is appropriate.
In my opinion, if you're a father who wouldn't at least consider killing your daughters rapist? You don't really love your daughter. Sure, same for a son. But until it happens, I'm more concerned about him wrecking his motorcycle, dig?
Sure I understand why people would think "my daughter is way more vunerable than my son" but that kind of thinking might make you miss the signs that your son's coach or teacher or karate instructor may be a predator as well. Believe me these sick monsters love little boys too. But I guess the instinct to protect a female will always be the priority in this society and I'm not gonna say it shouldn't be that way but that's how it is I guess.
Yeah I'm not fighting you on that. But my statement was never meant to be about this part of the discussion.
My brother's best friend in college was a pacifist. Not anymore. What changed? We asked. "I became a father" he said.
I have two daughters. Haven't thought about it often. I just tried imagining it. I haven't often imagined my elbow cracking down on someone's neck before but...
It's one of those thoughts that you actively try to avoid, that sometimes creeps up on you when you're trying to sleep.