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BarronTimeTraveler [S] 2 points ago +5 / -3

Yeah I get that but it’s my career and coworkers I’ve been friends with for years. It’s not that simple as just saying something that aggressive to them. They are good nice people. I know it’s easy to just type harsh replies like that on here, but that’s not real life.

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cnn_can_dox_my_balls 4 points ago +4 / -0

Who is being aggressive, you, or someone who is prying into your medical history?

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Blndhairylegs 4 points ago +4 / -0

then lie

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PerchingEagle 2 points ago +2 / -0

No one has asked me directly. I work with a number of young mom Karens. Although I find the virtue signaling nauseating (one is preg & got vax...ummmm), they're generally OK to good/great people. They talk a lot, but they talk so fast & excitedly I've dodged any direct questions.

If it happens, I'm just going to say, "Is it understandable if I keep that private?" I'm most senior, besides the boss & am always free and willing to help the less experienced on job questions. If your co-workers already like you, it's easier to enforce lines of privacy without coming off like some bitter "Falling Down" style angry white dude.

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BlackLivesMurder 2 points ago +2 / -0

You are not aggressive enough with your morals. Do not stand down

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PerchingEagle 0 points ago +1 / -1

Perhaps. But perhaps you're not as in control of your emotions. Perhaps you don't trust others to respond to a more thoughtful example of demonstrating the right direction instead of confrontational argument. Perhaps you're not as persuasive as me.

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BlackLivesMurder 1 point ago +1 / -0

Perhaps you care so much about people's fee fees that you will over look negative behavior. I will not

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BarronTimeTraveler [S] 0 points ago +2 / -2

Best answer

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PerchingEagle 3 points ago +3 / -0

Thanks bro. You asked a really useful question. Saying "I'm private" is as good as "no" and might create more gossip & curious cross-examination, but this is how we teach others how to value ourselves more than any illegitimate social pressures to conform to group think, while not directly criticizing them. This is a psychological war we're all in, where 75% of the people don't even know they're in a war, or what side they're really on.