Or at all for that matter.
As a parent if I asked my kid to do something and they so much as pout or sigh then guess what...time to get my stopwatch out because it's wall sits and crunches time.
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Or at all for that matter.
As a parent if I asked my kid to do something and they so much as pout or sigh then guess what...time to get my stopwatch out because it's wall sits and crunches time.
Yep, had mum (and she actually did have blue hair) in Aldi have her child scream the shop down for 10 mins and he was approx 5. I got up close and one thing she was saying - 'you are really trying my patience' in a normal, beaten down way. Even child's sister was embarrassed
Me I would have left my trolley in the middle of the shop, taken child outside, verbally ripped him a new one and resumed shopping - with NO treats at the end apart for me and daughter.
So a strongly worded letter, nice. All the yelling parents do doesn't work. Kid will just tune it out. Seen it happen to my sister many times. I used to tune my mom out.
"Before you start playing video games I need you to clean your room young man."
What did I do? I played video games. The next day this is what happens:
"I thought I told you to clean your room yesterday???"
I'd be like ahh shoot sorry mom. Then what would happen is she'd get so sick and tired of stuff she'd yell as passionately as she could, and I would just sit there, tuning it out. All she had to do was take away my ps1. That's it. It never happened.
You take away my ps1, or you start making me do wall sits, you bet your ass I'm gonna be straightening up real fuckin quick. But parents are stupid.
Very very good point there. Yes, overuse is horrible and ineffective and abusive with some parents. I agree the child would zone out - I would. God knows the damage it can do to a child growing up.
I am a mum and my daughter is 22 now. In her 22 years I hardly ever raised my voice, I didn't need to. When I did it was in exceptional circumstances, and I would have classed that child in Aldi as exceptional. I put my foot down as a last resort.
I relied on routine, right from the start she knew what her day consisted of. She had an equal voice right from the start and every year she would get a little more responsibility and freedom. It was a steep learning curve, but I would say when I did have to raise my voice, bad behaviour ceased. Its a balance.